Hi all, just seeking advice... should I ask my fiance's best man's wife to be a bridesmaid?
My fiancé has a best friend from elementary school that will be his best man at the wedding. He and his wife just got married last year. I was a bridesmaid for their wedding while my fiancé was a groomsman.
But truth be told... we aren't very close friends... we hang out often due to our SOs, but I can't seem to get along with her. We are both significantly different in our interests and personalities. I just have a hard time making a genuine connection with her. I also had a hard time connecting with her and her bridesmaids at her wedding.
To give an example, I am an elementary school teacher. I nerd out over little things and don't care to be awkward and goofy. On the other hand, she is the head CEO of her parents' company. She is a more reserved, serious person and her interests lie in business, stocks, politics, sports, and reality TV. In general, we have a very hard time making conversation when it is only the 2 of us in a room... I just feel like it's hard for me to make a genuine connection with her.
Lastly, she has made some comments about my style and interests, which have came across as slightly degrading to me. For example, my name is "Jenny," but she calls me "Jen" because "Jenny is the name you are called when you're still a child." She also has commented on my style that I "don't dress my age" since I love wearing skirts, bows, and headbands (hey, I'm a teacher, remember? :p )
Anyways, I just feel like I am almost immature to her, so I have a hard time feeling comfortable with her.
I guess at the end of the day, we just don't really vibe together. And since this is the case, I can't see her getting along with my bridesmaids who are my close friends since elementary/high school...
But my fiancé says I should really consider making her a bridesmaid since 1) we were part of her wedding party, 2) since it is his best man's wife, and 3) we're most likely going to spend our futures together.
I know what I feel in my heart and mind, but I just wanted to reach out for opinions as to what you think I should do...