Should I announce NOT changing my name?

I know it's all cool and hip to be all über feminist... ect. I don't care if "times are changing". -- like I said... if you're going outside the norms... which she did. You can't expect everyone to have known. And yes... she's butt hurt. Lol.

It's whatever not a big deal to me. If OP wanted to make a public service announcement about it she needed to have done it before the wedding. Not after.

I don't think it's needed. Have your DJ announce you as the new married couple insert first names and leave it at that.

Correct people when it comes up naturally in conversation

The norm? Yeah no. And yes I'm allowed to be pissed if people consistently call me by something that is not. my. name. I'll make sure I get it across exactly how I want to be addressed. My name, my choice.

Go for it. You do you. But this is a public forum, where OP asked for advice. The obvious consensus is to just let it go. But- at the end of the day, she and everyone else is gonna do what they want to do anyway

@Kayla: The obvious consensus is that she shouldn't make an announcement but not that she is "butt hurt" to be annoyed by being addressed by the wrong name.

@Kayla, while the consensus has been that she shouldn't make an announcement, it hasn't been to let it go. It has been to let people know in a different way, i.e. addressing notes to them with both persons full names. And uber feminist? Seems like you're the one butt hurt that women don't want to automatically take on their husband's names. Your were already wrong with your "erroneous assumptions" statement and you just keep on making yourself look worse.

If you take your husband's last name after marriage and someone refers to you by your maiden name, I assume you will let it go and never correct them?

Bride here who didn't change her last name. The majority of my family and friends, both old and young, didn't assume that I was changing my name. I also know plenty of women in my profession who did not change their last name. I don't understand why it is okay for anyone to assume what someone is doing with their last name.

I would gently let people know in private/individually if they send you something addressed wrong.

Thanks to those who bucked the "obvious consensus" in their responses I already planned to sign both our full names to joint correspondence, incl. Thank You notes, just wasn't expecting to get customized/personalized gifts from people that don't know both of us well. We actually have more wedding events coming up (we had to have events across the country to accommodate everyone), so I've also reiterated both our full names on our wedding website and online registry. I may post something like this as my Facebook status though:

Someone accused me of being a "Trendy Uber Feminist" for not changing my last name after getting married. Considering I make a nice living handling discrimination lawsuits--such as women being underpaid, fired, or not hired because of employers' erroneous assumptions--I wonder if I should use that as a marketing catch phrase if I ever decide to go solo :-P #TrendyUberFeminist