Should I announce NOT changing my name?

I do not think an public announcement is necessary.

Use word of mouth as the occasion arises. Mailing out a formal announcement about something you are not doing is a bit of an oxymoron.

Facebook. We don't have mutual connections on LinkedIn, and work in different professions. Mostly, it's his side (which is vastly more socially conservative than mine) that is making the erroneous assumption.

I would say something when the conversation naturally comes up.

When you mail out thank you cards, put both your full names with the return address. But no need to announce it

Could you send holiday cards, and put "from the newlyweds, Mr. X and Ms. Y"? That could get the point across.

@QueSeraSera - thanks, we'll definitely do that. Doesn't solve the issue of getting gifts with just his initial (e.g. engraving/monogramming with both our first initials but only his last) on it, but I guess I'll just be grateful for the gift and get over that factoid.

Fallinthegarden - good idea!

Yeah, they shouldn't have gone off registry for gifts.

Any way to return customized gifts?

You mentioned that your DJ announced y'all are if you will take his last name.... that is one of my concerns (I am not taking FH's last name either) and we are asking to be announced by our first names only. I won't have a problem with people calling me by his last name right after the wedding as some may not know, but I figure the word will get out organically. Hopefully yours will too?

@que A gift registry is suggestions .... not mandatory. There is no rule that says they have to get something from there and to expect that is gift grabby.

@Tiffany - I would never assume a bride is taking the groom's last name and get them monogram gifts though

@QueSeraSera - no, custom gifts can't be returned. They're not things I would've wanted anyway, but oh well.

You may not, but other still might. Especially older generations.

@OP I'm sorry this has happened. If it was me I would just be organic about / make sure your thank you cards and holiday cards say Mr. X and Mrs. Y. It may be frustrating but just let people politely know best of luck

If I were getting a monogrammed or personalized gift, I'd be sure I knew if she were taking his name or not...

FWIW I know two women who did not change their names and they did say something on FB. I would think your thank you notes would be a another helpful clue. The return address should have your correct name.

If your wedding is over, the chance of you getting more monogrammed/last name gifts is really slim... I wouldn’t go out of my way to make an announcement.

I wouldn't. I don't even think the NY Times is announcing, "The bride will be keeping her name" anymore. It's really your own decision, but I too would ask a couple before I bought anything personalized.

I like quesera's suggestions. I don't think an announcement is necessary. If someone calls you Mrs. X you can just correct them and say, 'oh actually it's Mrs. Y.' Word will travel

I don't think that's necessary