Stephanie
Super April 2020

Should Bridesmaids Have the Same Hairstyle?

Stephanie, on September 30, 2019 at 5:17 PM Posted in Hair and Makeup 1 83
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Hey Ladies. So my FH has a huge family and a lot of friends, therefore my Bridal Party will consist of 11 Bridesmaids and 11 Groomsmen. I know its a lot, but 11 is a significant number in our relationship. Any-who, being that I have so many bridesmaids, I had the idea of them all wearing dresses that are of course the same color and material, but also have them pick what they are comfortable in, what looks and feels good to them, and whatever is their style. With that being said, being that the dresses will be different, should the hair be uniform? Whats your opinion?

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  • Caytlyn
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    No, I think that's super outdated and pretty difficult since everyone has different hair lengths/textures/types/colors.

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  • Melle
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    No i think it'd be better to let them choose. since the same hairstyle may not look good on everyone

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  • Stephanie
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    Thank you. There are so many different textures and everything. I just needed some clarity on this. Thanks dear.

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  • Dayna
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    Wow that is a big party! I'm guessing it will be hard to do a uniform hairstyle since you will most likely be dealing with a lot of different lengths and textures. You could set some general guidelines if you want some uniformity, such as deciding weather you want hair down, up, half up, etc. I only have 5 BMs, but I plan to ask them to wear an updo since my hair will be down, but will probably let them choose a back or side updo that suits them. You could specify bangs/hair not in face, or pick out a clip or headband for everyone to wear matching.

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  • Stephanie
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    So true Melle. I have so many ladies, different personalities, sizes, hair textures, etc. Your'e right. Thank you.

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  • Megan
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    I only have 3 bridesmaids but they decided to be uniform. I only gave the criteria that I wanted a broad involved and they all found one they liked. Smiley smile Uniformity wasnt important to me, but I think it will be cute.
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  • Stephanie
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    Dayna, that's a good idea. It is a lot to deal with. They have been consulting with me the styles they may be thinking about so I am glad they are considering my thoughts and feelings. Thanks for the input.

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  • Stephanie
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    Megan, I wanted 3-5 bridesmaids because I keep my circle small. I can see uniformity with a small group of people. Its easier. Thanks

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  • L
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    Absolutely not. Hair is so personal that I would never ever require someone to wear their hair a certain way (for example i really really hate 99% of updos - but just becuase it's not my preference doesn't mean my BM's are comfortable with their hair down...). I wanted them to feel beautiful and comfortable!

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  • Cyndy
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    I don’t think so. Everyone has a style that looks good on them and not everyone has the same texture of hair to be able to have a certain hairstyle. Besides that’s a lot of people to have the same look.
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  • Stephanie
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    My point exactly Lady, I want them to feel like themselves and not feel obligated to look a certain way.

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  • Stephanie
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    Right Cyndy, I want everyone to feel like an individual and feel comfortable, and pretty. Thanks so much.

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  • Keri
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    I’m letting do their hair how they want. Dresses are same color but different styles.
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  • Stephanie
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    Right Keri. That's what I was thinking as well.

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  • Lex
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    I had 3 bridesmaids and all I asked of them was to wear the headband I gave them. They all ended up with their hair mostly down.
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  • Heather
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    Heather ·
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    I think the same general style is nice. My bridesmaids all will be in the same color dress but different styles. They are all doing some sort of low style or bun.

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  • Heather
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    Heather ·
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    Then again, I only have 4. 11 might be a different story and I can see where that makes it more difficult.
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  • Gabrielle
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    I told all of my bridesmaids to at least have there hair in a updo style or in curls and no exotic colors. So it really depends on you and your preference.

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  • Aleaj
    Expert October 2019
    Aleaj ·
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    A lot of weddings do still have their bridesmaids have the same hairstyle, if it’s your preference then go for it! It is not out of style!
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  • Gabrielle
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    It think it is better to let them choose! I am personally going to be the only one with an updo. I do not want any of my bridesmaids "matching" me.

    I want all of their hair down and 1/2 back somehow. I am not picky on the actual style, just that it is not an updo, and semi-half up/down.


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