shot... tacky??

What about using it for the toasts?

I suggest using it as your "specialty drink" the drink that everyone will have in their hands for the toast....

I went to an Italian wedding once where after the receiving line, before entering the reception area, we were all offered shots with a choice of Sambuca or Baileys. They had trays of both set up on tables at the reception entrance. Maybe you could use this kind of idea with the Columbian shot being one option and something Italian like Sambuca as the other?

I think people will love it. your FMIL needs to get over herself and accept your culture!

I can't see why it is tacky. I live the shots idea after the recieving line. Perhaps a little explanation during a toast on the significance would help and then you can have it right before dessert. But I would encourage it!

I love the shot idea. I hate champagne and wanted to do a shot for my toast but the venue doesn't allow shots. I say check with your venue first, but totally do it. You could have them already on the table like water glasses.

I don't think it sounds tacky at all. You need to put a little bit of your culture into the wedding since it's so heavily geared to your husband's culture. I love the ideas some of the other women have suggested of making it a specialty drink and or using it as your toast.

For sure not tacky if its apart of your culture i say expose them to it. and believe me italians wont mind a shot

my FH is italian his whole (huge) Family is

It's not tacky at all! It's your cultural tradition. What I think is tacky is your FMIL making faces when you bring it up.

Ha, it would be considered tacky if we DIDN'T have shots at our wedding... I like the idea of putting them on the table if your venue will allow it. You could put the bottle on the table with the shot glasses around it and maybe a little note about how it fits into your culture.

I am Colombian as well and I think it's a great idea to do shots for the toast I wish I could find aguardiente around here but I would have to go to Dallas for that. Either way let us know how that goes for you!

Its not tacky at all, it's part of your heritage and she should respect that, the wedding is for both of you, just not him!

We are doing two signature drinks, one which is generally made as a shot. Instead we will turn it into a drink so it's not so tacky.

I say it's ok to do it. We are doing a shot after the other toasts for whoever wants one of Crown since the bottle has some meaning in FH's family and it was his dads who passed away like 9 years ago so we are doing toast to him. I'm not sure how were doing it either, I might have a server walk around pouring them.

I love the idea! I think you should make sure to hold onto some of your traditions as well and that is not tacky. I have seen way worse =) lol

I say go for it. Don't listen to your FMIL, it isn't her wedding. Maybe have a bottle of it on the tables and shot glasses around it with a card explaining the meaning it has.

Not tacky at all. I agree with several of the other ladies, have it on the table with the shot glasses around it, with a card explaining the meaning.

If people don't want the shot, your not forcing them to do it.

We have a couple of recovering alcoholics at our wedding, so we are just asking that people "raise their glass" and we'll make sure there's some non-alcoholic options for them so they don't feel like they have to drink.

I would expect you can do something similar, give people the option of the shot, or something else (wine, beer, water, juice)

I love it! Plus, I think if you explain the meaning behind it (be it a card if you have the shots on the tables, or saying a little something before you have everyone toast with the shot) would be neat. I personally like to go to weddings and feel like I leave knowing a little more about the couple

Thanks for the input girls, I'll def. do it then...now i have to figure out how not to flip out when my fmil makes a face...

Use it as your toast and conclude the toast by stating "This toast brings two cultures together as one family, and then thank both sets of parents for all the love and support they have shown", the two of you. If she makes a face she looks bad to others not you for making the choice to bring your lives together.