She moved her date to when?

I’d feel fine. I don’t see the concern.

Thank you!

View Quoted Comment Bridal culture has taken a turn where selfish behavior is justified, and it deserves to be called out. Not only do the majority of people not know your wedding date, but they sure as heck don’t know the date of your engagement. Regardless, people deserve their own happiness, and that and your own wedding “stuff” are not mutually exclusive .

I wouldn't feel anything.

View Quoted Comment Still You Dont Need To Be Rude When Voicing Your Opinion. Being Rude Is Never Justifiable.

Did mention why she moved her wedding sooner?

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Wait they got engaged on the same day as you a year later? That is really strange. I see why you feel some type of way about it

View Quoted Comment Yes their engagement date is the same as ours but they got engaged a year later. Which made us feel kind of odd about it as well. She moved her date because she didnt want to wait another year to have the wedding i guess

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Very strange behavior if you ask me. I would be a little upset too

I kind of get it, in a way its like shes trying to beat you to it and get married first or like she’s trying to one up you. But like everyone on here said it honestly doesn’t matter. She just needs to stay in her lane and everything will be fine. Now if shes using ur same theme or same colors (Actually same colors Might be ok but still weird) or same centerpieces then that would definitely be a problem with me. But honestly dont worry about it.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for replying. We feel some type of way about it. She is having a small wedding under 50. Were having a larger with all our family. So no problem with decor or stuff like that. Its just more annoying ahe changed her date suddenly to a year later when we are getting close to our wedding that weve been planning for 2 years

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View Quoted Comment It does not matter if you have your date set for 10 years ,2 years or a week before theirs. As long as family does not choose the same day, and gives at least a 2 week space when possible, then you have nothing to complain about when family set a wedding date near yours . It does not take away from your wedding, and like any wedding, people will come if they want to be there. As a bride, you get one day. The extra time of up to two weeks would be so immediate family would not be tied up back to back weekends, and would have time to get things back from the cleaners. Not because any space is necessary between weddings. Why so upset? What do you think couples are losing out on, with dates a couple months away? And as for proposal dates, except for the couple involved, who knows or cares what date some other couple agreed to marry? No one, but rthe couple celebrates that. 98 people you know could get engaged the exact same day and hour as you, and it would not bother anybody. What is your problem with other people doing things on your proposal date? Did you buy it for all eternity?

Agree 100%. I can’t see anything wrong with having a wedding within 4 months of a family member that doesn’t come down to “FSIL is stealing my thunder!!” Respectfully, that is silly, and as others have said, selfish. Would you be upset if her date was four months after yours? That means you would not be okay with her having her wedding for a full 8 month period??


Is this really worth starting off on the wrong foot with your future sister? Not to mention your brother. Try to be happy for them! Try to look on the bright side — now you have someone to commiserate planning with. Maybe it will bring you two closer.

View Quoted Comment This is actually my fiances younger sister. Not my brothers wife. Fiance is upset about it as well, so its not just me.

View Quoted Comment Ah, I see. Regardless, this doesn’t change anything. Both of you should try to let it go because it’s a silly thing to be upset about.

Four months is still four months. I wouldn’t mind. Plus I’m sure they had their reasons.

View Quoted Comment I think you and your fiance lack perspective on this. Perhaps you have a couple of generations of very small families. In larger families, people would have to wait years to marry, or have a baby, graduate, or anything special, if they did not amicably share things, starting with accepting that that there is enough love and attention to go around within your family and between true friends. People are capable of paying close and loving attention attention to one person for a couple of half day events and a one day one , spread over a couple months, and do it for several others during the same time period. You sound like the kids who never want to share any toy they have, or do anything cooperatively with other people, because you want every thing, and every bit of other people's attention, for yourself. It is not a particularly nice, or even acceptable character trait to most people. My hubby and I each come from big families. 3 of our 4 parents came from big families. And we are close. ( Not our two families, but each one.) We cluster in age groups . For example, I have 35 female first cousins, within 5 years of my age, all children of my mother's and father's brothers and sisters. And 10 of my male first cousins are in that range. And 7 of my brothers and sisters in that time. That means 52 of us have a very great likelihood wanting to marry and have our children close in time. And my husband has 40 of his Dad's brothers' kids within 5 years of his age, and 7 siblings. So normal, in our families, is that some years no one married, sometimes for 2-5 years, no one. Then 2-8 people in each of our families will marry in a 9 month span. And the same year, 1-5 babies may be born, and 2-5 with graduate from college, or grad school, or finish military service. All have their ritual parties and celebrations. The year we married, April to October, 5 of hubby and my brothers and sisters, and 5 first cousins, and 2 second cousins married, all but 2 within a couple hours drive. We went to 19 weddings that year April to December, 17 together and each had 3 wedding is we went to alone, each with a wedding 300 or more miles apart, same day. Because friends in our graduating classes, HE or college or grad school, or who did military service together, all married in a limited number of years, mostly ages 20 to 26. And, there was plenty of love to go around. No one was shortchanged. Everyone had the showers or bachelorette they wanted. Everyone attended parties they were invited to, if possible. The greatest reason for missing someone's event was a conflict with work, or having a new baby within a week of a wedding or shower. People help each other out. Share, look out for each other. So his sister married 6 weeks before us and my brothers 3 before and and his sister 6 weeks after, and .... No one scheduled anything closer than three weeks. Except friends were scattered in between. I can only tell you the day of my same age brother's proposals. None of my other brothers, sisters, cousins, or any friend I ever had. Neither can hubby. Because every one was a proposal in private, only the couple there. 🙂 The day you marry is terribly important to you, your family, your closest friends. But more than a couple days either way, every one else gets to have their special occasions too. And while others are thrilled to hear you got engaged, 5 or 10 days later no one cares what date it was. And people who get angry or jealous or resentful that they do not get weeks or months all their own, seem really self centered to most of us. The nature of the event, marriage, is sharing love, keeping bonds with friends and family and cross generations. And people who think that they should be able to carve up the calendar, and take 4 months either side of their date walled off and guarded and never shared with others, without it causing bad feeling, seem out of step to most of us. Loving people enough to call them close family, means loving them enough to share and help each other, and making drama over other people having their happy times in the same calendar as you , seems out of place. Something best left behind with squabbles over toys in the play room. Please, drop your grievances, and share the happiness.

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This was my thoughts exactly....with everything going on and uncertain right now moving it from a "safe" 2021 date to June 2020 just seems foolish and irresponsible.

So to the OP, you're probably fine because she'll probably need to postpone/have a lot of no RSVPs anyway....

View Quoted Comment They are having a wedding of like 40. She said they arent moving the date no matter what. so even the virus keeps going she will probably keep the date