She moved her date to when?

Four months is still quite a bit of time between weddings. I wouldn't mind.

I would feel excited that she got to marry the love of her life even sooner.

I wouldn't care at all. The timing between weddings really doesn't matter.

However, if your wedding is indeed October of this year and she moved it to June... in the wake of COVID-19, I'd think that was just kind of a foolish move on her part, especially if her date was 2021. She may not be able to have it then.

4 months is a very long time gap. I wouldn't care at all!

I wouldn’t worry about it but if she moved it to 4 months before you she likely will have to change it anyway due to the virus.

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My brother's wedding was four months before mine and my brother-in-law's wedding was six weeks after mine. My sister was also originally supposed to get married four months after me, but she ended her engagement and ended up marrying someone else five months after mine. Initially I was upset that my brother-in-law got married six weeks after us, but that was more because we told him and his fiancee we wanted to get married in September and they decided three hours after we told them when we wanted to get married that they suddenly wanted to get married in September. They got engaged two days before us and never once mentioned wanting a September wedding until we did. We changed our wedding date after they decided to get married in September and I was upset because I really wanted a September wedding, but two weddings in the same month would have been too much so we changed out date. While I didn't get married when I wanted to, I realized it doesn't matter because I still married the man of my dreams. The fact that your future sister-in-law is getting married four months before you isn't worth being upset about. I am sure there is a reason they decided to get married sooner and you should be happy for them. This in no way should interfere with your wedding so be like Elsa and let it go.

I don't think it's a big deal, but I think it wasn't the smartest thing to do considering that would be around June and who knows how June for the virus will be at this point.

Well, considering everyone gets one day, I can't imagine being bothered by this. And the ages of the people concerned only matter if this "much younger fsil" was literally too young to get married (which I would have a problem with!).

How nice! That should be a happy time for the family, two kids getting married.

Isn’t she worried about coronavirus??? But, I seriously wouldn’t care if I were in your position. Four months is a very long time. If it were a few weeks, that would make it logistically annoying, sure. Also, you can take note of all the things that didn’t work for her wedding and fix them for yours.

My future inlaws picked their date exactly 3 weeks after ours! We were furious!

View Quoted Comment Oh man that would infuriate me as well! We are upset because she suddenly moved her wedding and weve had our date for 2 years and planning.
They also got engaged on the same day as us but a year later.

View Quoted Comment That is awful! We got engaged, they got engaged and then we set our date then they picked thiers. It's so frustrating

View Quoted Comment Ugh! So frustrating. I understand everyone gets one day but im just very suprised. I could never imagine jumping in and changing my date so close to someones especially a relative. Shes even in our wedding! I think ive come to the conclusion i am to nice to people

View Quoted Comment This is a thing? Your engagement date is also now off limits? Sheesh, get over it.

I’d only be mad if she scheduled the weekend or two before. 4 months wouldn’t even register to me!

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I don’t think I understand what the issue is here. Four months??? That’s not even the same season.

I would be excited for a family member or close friend! The only thing that would get under my skin if the cost to travel for the wedding prohibited me from going because I am paying for my wedding or the cost of travel made me have to eliminate something from my wedding. That's not really the couple's fault though. FH's best friend is getting married in July and we are getting married in October; at the time they selected their date, we had ours for several months. We have to travel for theirs and they have to travel for ours. They are each other's best man.