Sex Talk Ladies!! (Gents too)

Honestly, and I know others may see this as "there's something wrong", but it's not #1 in our relationship. I really don't even think it's #2, 3 or 4! And I never thought I would say that. I mean don't get me wrong we love it, but it's not somethign we have to have every day. For example, he's been working out of town for 2 weeks now and we are going on probably 3 weeks of no booty, but I'd much rather snuggle in bed with him when he gets home than get freaky right away. And he feels the same way. I'm definitely the guy in the relationship when it comes to that...I'm the one usually instigating things and it's always been like that.

Its not like our relationship is based on sex by any means! Yes we have sex often, a few times a week usually, but also like Brittney B said, its not something we have to haave every single day(except for that one week out of the month.. .darn you aunt flo!!! lol). It plays a big role for us becasue its such a beautiful way to connect with each other, I feel close to FH all the time, but nothing compares to how close I feel to him during sex. And another way I look at it, I know most of us have had other boyfriends before FH and most of us have had sex with past relationships, and looking back on it, yeah some of them I did love, but not on the level I love FH, and the sex is definitely nowhere near the level of passion that FH and I share

I do not think it plays a big role. If you cant live without sex from your other half then there is really nothing there. I agree with Brittney B. I think she is so right on that.

I agree that it doesn't play a big role. Me and my FH like sex but in all honesty it only happens once or twice a week if we're lucky. I would much rather fall asleep cuddling with him than get our freaky on lol don't get me wrong though, we do LOVE our sex.

Our biggest argument is about sex. He never wants to because he says its not that important and he doesn't need it all the time. I am the opposite. I feel offended when he says no ALL the time. He's actually going to get tested for low testosterone because I don't think its normal.

I think it plays a pretty big role in our relationship. Mostly because we were deprived of it for so long in our relationship (deployments and living in different states) that when we DO get to do it, or when we do get be together, we spend a lot of time "catching up". Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of other things that play just as big of a role. But I think that sort of intimacy for us is very important.

For me, sex is very important & sex is a great way for FH & I to connect & be intimate, but it doesnt run our lives & believe Im a horndog...lol...I LOVE SEX!!! but i know God forbid if something happened & we couldnt have sex anymore I would be ok because we share intimacy in so many other ways. It definitely plays a role & we have sex a few times a week, but Im in love with for other reasons, not just for sex.

OMG Amber...have you been spying on FH and I? I swear ya'll sound like us! That's how we were for the longest. I wanted it all the time and only got it when he was in the mood (not very often). It used to kill me when he turned me down, it seriously hurt my feelings. I couldn't figure out for the life of me why. From what I knew and heard and read men couldn't get enough of sex and here i have this man that supposedly loves me and is attracted to me, and he wants nothing to do with me? WTH!!! FH would always tell me the same thing...it's not that important and that he could go the rest of his life not having sex with me and he'd be just fine as long as he had me to hold. Really? Who took your balls??? It took me a long time to get over and realize that he's not like other men. I mean don't get me wrong, we DO have sex at least once a week if not more when he's here, but it's not all he thinks about either.

Oh and Amber...get you a replacement for when he's not in the mood. Go to town on yourself and I'm sure he'll "perk" up really quickly!

It is a huge deal and you need to be on the same page for it to last, at least that's what I feel.

Also, nothing is worse than getting turned down repeatedly, with my ex wife it got to the point that I wouldn't even ask.

When I was in my 20's, sex was a chore. The girls were young, and it seemed like everyone wanted a piece of me. Sadly, women reach their peak later than men.

Now, sex and intimacy(different things)are def a close second to communication. I often worry as he grows older(I am 14 years younger.)and he may lose the ability, and it will make him feel insecure. But, there is more than one way to skin a cat.

In our relationship sex while important is not that important. we have it a couple times a month, i know its not alot for most people but its really special when it does happen, we are very close and just holding eachother and snuggling and talking and being open and honest is the biggest thing but when it does happen its always AMAZING

It definitely falls in the very imprtant areas of our relationship. For me, more than him

I think it is AN important piece but I don't think it is THE important piece. I think in my relationship there has to be some type of Chemistry in the physical/bedroom area or else I think later on it will become an issue. Sex is just another manifestation of how two people connect with each other and if it's faulty...I think it opens a door for temptation. We will experience each other sexually for the FIRST time after our wedding so I hope our expectations are met. From the way we have talked to each other...I think we will both be pleasantly satisfied.

Dont get me wrong we both LOVE sex, but there are parts that arent important and that are. we dont have it every day especially with his busy schedule now but when we do it is wounderful and both of us love it. So I wold say that its important but its not what makes or breaks us.

We are about like everyone else, its great, nothing against it at all, by all means lets have more. We always flirt and kiss each other on the neck or pinch each others butts, but I wouldn't say it is a top priority. Weekends when the kids are gone catapults sex to the top of the list.

Sex and Communication are the 2 biggest things in relationships... so yes sex is important

There are quite a few studies about how connecting too infrequently through sex can lead to other problems in marriage...I think so long as husband and wife are mutually satisfied with their sex life, things are good.

Personally, after waiting so many years to get married, I hate going more than a day or two without

sex is important but we have other things that way more important, But if I don't get it often I can be a firer cracker ready to blow!

Personally, for my DH and I it's important for us to be intimate in that way, but it in no way rules our relationship. We love it, of course, but neither one of us puts that in our top three priorities category. We are intimate in a lot of other ways other than sex so we never feel neglected or lonely. I think as long as you're on the same page as your DH/FS it's all good.