Sent an S.T.D, but no Invitation?!

QueSeraSera - EXACTLY! That is the case with 2 people, which account to 4 with their spouses.. Those are truly the ones I don't care if they accept and hope they don't. It sucks to see all the negativity that people feel towards you when something extremely important in ones life occurs. These are things I would have never though to hear or had said about me from these people and that is why I had invited them, but they have left such a sour taste in my mouth over it. One has the nerve to say I looked like a "Fat Marshmellow" in my dress. I was so hurt and then pissed off after I saw the text.

Yeah, pardon my French but you're fucked. Lol If you didn't want to invite them you shouldn't have sent stds.

Whoaaaa, if one of my guests called me a "fat marshmallow", I'd have no qualms about uninviting them!! Screw etiquette.

@Patricia - LOL!! Sorry, your comment made me laugh.. Yes, I know.. I EPIC FAILED myself.. lessons learned tremendously through this entire wedding!

@QueSeraSera - THANK YOU! That is the one, well one of the two, that I was speaking of when I said I was referencing people I was ok with not coming.. That was completely uncalled for. Shit, I know I am fat, would never think otherwise, but to bash anyone like that.. SHIT ISNT COOL! But the other 26 people, it was more that I hadn't seen them in a long time, and half are now out of the state/country (military and school). Of them, those are the ones I am pretty sure can't/won't be able to make it. I know it was crappy to assume that and then cut them because of it.. so I will send them their invites, they don't deserve that. That is why I love this forum.. it slaps you back into perspective and QUICK!

I'm kinda in the same boat? We added names to the guest list just as a courtesy and to be nice. Mainly for church members. FH and I are workers in the church and grew to know a lot of people pretty well... we even pray together. But we are hoping that most of these ppl won't come, because numbers are adding up.. but we have them on the list to say, "hey we are thinking about you sharing this big day with us"

.. we even know some might come, but it's the gesture that we're looking and it's getting to me.. What if they all come???

Ps we haven't sent STDs or invites yet and will most likely cut down the list before we do.

I would send an invitation to the one that called you a fat marshmallow telling him that he is cordially invited to go fuck himself! But I'm also a petty bitch.

All jokes aside, you cannot cut people once you send an STD. But, it seems you know that already.

You're stuck on inviting the others, but that one who called you a fat marshmallow doesn't need to be invited at all. STD or not.

O&S #D&B - Thank you! I learned that a long time ago with the forum.. dont take sh*t personal.. Everyone is speaking their mind and is what we are here for.. HONESTY! And I would rather take a ration of shi*t from you all, because I am not getting a sugar coated version like I would get from my mom or whomever else. Then I would have probably done something stupid and shoot myself in the foot in the process.

Future Mrs. G - OMG!!! You're amazing... LOL!!! Don't think that hasn't been a thought, because the inner-petty b*tch in me wants to do the same. Even to be over there fluffing the sh*t of my dress the entire time, if the individual decides to show! Even made me considering adding another couple layers of crinoline to the damn dress!

I dont know of anyone mentioned but expect to have 20% of those invited will not come. you should send invite since you already sent STD. cross your fingers some say no. worse case everhone comes its a little cramped but you will be so busy you wont notice and youll hopefully get more items from your registry

Future Mrs.B - Yes, I am going to send to everyone, even the lovely gal that called me a marshmallow. HA! We will make it work if all RSVP "Yes", and if some can't make it, as bad as it sounds, it sort of worked out. We send out the invites next week, and this was a thought toying with me for the past 2 days, so I am so glad I posted this and got the swift kick I needed, it was just the right timing before I did something stupid and regretted it later.

Minime - Once we opted into the larger venue, I went a little stir crazy and was like "let's invite them, and him too, and her, and don't forget these two.." it got a little out of control on my side. I will own up to that. I just wanted to share with everyone, wanted them all to be apart of it even if I hadn't seen them in a long time.. just wasn't worried about the venue until now, which was dumb.. an outdoor venue likely would have eliminated this whole stupid thought of mine.

Yes. It's tacky and rude. I'm sure plenty of people wI'll not be able to make it anyway, so that could cut your guest list down and make it more comfortable

OP - that's a very rude thing to do/say. If you don't care about them, why send a STD? Send them an invite.

Yes. That's really really bad. You can't do that. Just hope that you get a good amount of people who rsvp no.

@Hannah & Amanda - Invites will be on the way to everyone originally on the GL.. this swift kick in the ass has made sure of that!

Not everyone will show up. But you must send them invitations

@Chrystal - I read through the thread that an invited guest called you a fat marshmallow. I agree with PP that said "send the invite telling them to go fuck themself!" LOL! As for the other people, yes they need to be invited.

But seriously, how awful of them to say such a thing. Sorry you had to deal with that.

This is a perfect example of why you don't send STDs. Once you send them you're committed. Can you imagine what you're going to say to somebody who calls and says, "Hi, We got your STD, but no invite. Is something wrong?" "Well yes, we sent you an STD 6 months ago but now we think you suck and we've over invited,so you got cut." This is almost worse than a cash bar or honey fund.