Sent an S.T.D, but no Invitation?!

Yes. A STD is a pre-invitation. It's saying "Hey don't make plans this day because we're inviting you to our wedding!", then you don't invite them because of poor planning on your part? No, they need an invitation.

Why would you even invite people that you couldn't care less if they come? That only costs you more money, unless you are just expecting more gifts.

Yes, if you sent them a save the date you have to invite them. It would be extremely rude to not invite them.

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I'm afraid that ship has sailed. If you've sent the save the date, you have to send the invitation. It would indeed be extremely tacky not to. You say you're ok with backlash, but I don't think that's stress worth dealing with.

Everyone who received a STD, has to be sent an invite. This is why many people warn against save the dates. It would be extremely rude to cut them.

It's really tacky and really really rude to ask someone to not make plans so they can attend your wedding and then decide at the last minute you don't actually want to invite them.

Also why would you add anyone on your list you "Could care less about" ?

I agree with the PP, if they got a save the date they get an invitation. Not all of your 200 will come most likely. I think one of the old statistics was about 15-20% of total invited will probably not attend.

I'm not sure what kind of venue you have, but if it has any outdoor areas or additional spaces/rooms maybe you could take advantage of those to help create space.

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You'll have to send an invite. It may work itself out and they may not be able to come.

Ok, thats what I thought. I really needed to hear it from someone else. Thank you ladies. I will cut out two of the table we were going to use for other items and will make room. What really threw me off was the photo booth, we were told it would be a back drop and then it turned into an actual booth, which was fine, if the room was available. If need be, I will pay extra to eliminate the booth, that will give me space for two additional tables, which will actually be four once I cut out the other two I was going to use for decor and such.. that alone is seating for another 40.

Yup, this is why you don't send STDs to everyone

I had this same problem and most of the people RSVP'D no. I wouldn't stress too much till you start to get them back. But you need to send those people invites.

Yikes. Yes. STD=guaranteed invite.

Maybe you'll get lucky and they won't care to come.

Keep in mind that 80% show up from who receives an invitation. But it is tacky to send a STD and not an invitation.

You have to send invites but with a guest list of 300 you'll probably have at least 30 that won't be able to attend.

Addison, that is not true. I had a 97% acceptance. You cant count on made up numbers.

I guess what I mean by not caring if they come, is that I originally wanted it to be a small wedding. My fiance wanted more space = more guests because he had so many people to invite. His GL turned out to be 64 people! 64 people is why we needed a LARGER venue than the small chapel I feel in love with that would account for 100 between the two of us. I at that time only had 46 people (close family and friends). I guess it is just me now seeing that a big wedding is not all the hype. But you all are 100% correct: poor planning on my part (got overzealous and too excited about inviting EVERYONE rather than keeping it how I should have close family/friends), sending S.T.D's to everyone (which I honestly did not know they should only go to the VIP's) and just not thinking things through thoroughly.

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I'm afraid it would be tacky. On the bright side if said friends feel the same way about you as you do of them then they likely won't show anyway.

You gotta suck it up now, sorry. Hope for declines but deal with whatever acceptance comes your way.

In 90% of all cases, STD's are not necessary and as you're finding out, they cause more problems than they solve. I mean seriously, you can ask people to save a date eight months ahead of time, but who can foresee their schedule that far in advance except your really close people who wouldn't miss your wedding for anything.

If you sent STD you need to invite. All you can do now is cross your fingers crossed they don't all come

I am having STD regret as well but only for one person.

I found out AFTER I sent them out that this person talks bad about me behind my back.

I really wish I could uninvite (not give her an invitation) her but I know that'd be super rude since she knows other people who are going so... ugh.

i'm just hoping she declines because the wedding is 2.5 hours away in December and who knows what the weather will be like then...

FutureMrsE - I can 100% state that they were not "invited" for more gifts. What I was considering may be viewed as tacky, but I am not so tacky that I would invite more to receive more. Part of me wished I could have everyone I know there, because in all honesty, they all do hold a special place in my life. I apologize for not phrasing things correctly, because what this really comes down to, is that with the church we have more than enough space to have everyone we invited and then some. But I just don't want it to be viewed that the reception was a bust if it is a little cramped.

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