Sending "Not Invited" Cards???

I've never heard of this but it's very interesting @Marlina. What does everyone else think?

I've never heard of sending Not Invited cards...

What I *have* heard of is sending Wedding Announcements after the wedding...

Wow, and No.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2276016/Youre-NOT-invited-Bizarre-new-wedding-trend-sees-couples-alert-B-grade-friends-theyre-wanted-big-day.html

the Bees were talking about this last month

http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/sorry-youre-not-invited-cards#axzz2LXq4SgHb

For those that are not invited to the wedding, you just send a wedding announcement after the wedding.

Wow, I don't know that I would like to get one of those cards. Myself I would figure no card means no invite.

I think that would be a slap in the face! So maybe I'm in that 23% then.

IMHO, if I got a "not invited" card this is exactly what I would say/think "well Fuck you too buddy"

Everyone wants to be invited, there's loved ones you want there but cant afford, & you have to let them down by telling them if, IF it comes up. But sending a card? I think no matter how nicely you word it, to the uninvited person, it's gonna sound rude.

I think this would come off as very rude but thats just my opinion

Thanks for the site Hayley.. I think I will just keep my mouth shut! Its crazy how people just feel so different about these things. I thought it was terrible when my friend told me. And she said she would much rather get the note.

I think I understand the intention of this... but it doesn't work. I get the whole "We're having a very small wedding, we would have loved to invite you, thanks for being a part of our lives and making us who we are today" kind of thing.

Wedding announcements after the big day would be the way to go.

I agree with all of you ladies! I told my friend I would start this convo to get opinions and then show her. LOL she should be thrilled to see this.

It would hurt my feeling to get a card like that. I would rather just get an announcement of the marriage than a not invited card.

Oh and another thing. We are already legally married and every one is already aware. We are now just planning the ceremony and celebration (because HE still wants the wedding). So I dont think announcements would make sense after all that. Maybe I'm wrong???

I can't say that I'm part of that 77%. I'd be majorly offended to receive a "not invited" card, regardless of it's wording or reason why I wasn't invited.

But with that said, I'm also not someone who feels entitled to be invited to everyone's wedding that I know so I wouldn't need any sort of explanation if I wasn't.

^ I second RayRay. I think post-wedding announcements are waaaay better. A person will might wonder "they got married? How come I wasnt invited? Oh how happy for them" & then be done with it, maybe ask you in person why they werent invited. But getting an uninvited card, they will hold a grudge & bitch about it all to hell I think.

In either case, again IMHO I think the "uninvited" portion is best left alone. Unless someone asks you and/or assumes they're invited, dont even mention it, makes for less stress trying to nicely let down people.

^^ so true, MrsO. I think we, as brides, understand that you can't invite everyone you've ever met to your wedding so we get it. But people who haven't done that yet... not so much.

I agree with everyone else. I avoid talking about the wedding with anyone I'm not inviting (except for posting the occasional facebook status or picture) because then I feel guilty and start inviting people I didn't plan on (we now have an extra like 8 people that we've invited after the fact, lol). While I understand the intention and would like to say "I wish we could invite everyone but money didn't allow it" I would never send that to someone directly. That's like saying "Yeah, I kinda wish you were here but really, you just weren't good enough to be."

I agree @EdieKristen

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh i would be so mad that i would unfriend you from facebook! yes.it.just.got.THAT.serious

hahhahahah

Can I also just say- put the money you would spend on those somewhere else in your budget!

I think if I got a "Not Invited" card I would be more upset and hurt then receiving nothing at all.