Sending "Not Invited" Cards???

I agree with Masquerade Bride. if any of the people i know who have recently gotten married and didnt invite me had sent me a card specifically to tell me im not invited, I would have just stared at it for a minute, then tear it up, say, "Well screw you too then, you're not invited to mine either, dickhead", then immediately send them a very nasty-worded email, unfriend them on facebook, and delete them out of my phone. I would take it as a very personal insult, and would cause me to cut all ties. Not being invited is one thing, i understand budget restraints. But to specifically single someone out to tell them they arent invited? Rude. If you did this, dont be surprised if you never hear from that person again.

Everyone I WILL NOT BE DOING THIS I PROMISE!!!! LOL just wanted to make sure I was thinking the right thing : )

Thanks for all your input

@Kris, I didn't realize it was a renewal. Yeahhhh no announcements for that anyway.

Sorry Marlina, that might have come off as a little blunt and bitchy. I wasnt calling you that name, its just what would run through my head. I would love to see the feedback a bride would get if she actually did this.

No worries at all Angel! I know what every one is getting at here : )

I would love to see feedback from a Bride who tried this also.

If I got a card like that I'd be like wow, and fuck you too.

Now what is a better idea is spreading the word that you are having a small wedding and wish you could invite all your favorite people but it just isn't possible. Let people know who else isn't invited, Like "between FH and I we can only have 2 tables of friends so that's just 8 friends each, etc"

I don't think it's a good idea and I could see my family really hating receiving one of those...

Wow, I think that is just rude. I would advise against it. People already get sensitive enough about this kind of thing; no need to rub it in. Even though that may not be your intention, I think it would do more damage than not. I would be hurt if I were on the receiving end of one of those.

Late to the party here, but I just read about this Not Invited card thing and I was wondering what people thought of it. I'm getting a wedding invite for my 3rd cousin (and hoping to gosh it isn't the same day we planned on booking our wedding with the wedding planner next week. She didn't say), and I feel really bad but she won't be invited to ours. She was invited to my first wedding, but no children were invited to that wedding. This time around, my finace has a lot of out of state family so we can't invite all his siblings and not his nephews. For one, who would watch all those kids, and for another, they'd all be really upset. Well we can't invite some people's kids and not others. So kids account for like 1/3 of the guest list. We simply can't invite all the extended relatives. We're only inviting immediate and 1st generational family, and some friends. I feel really bad because I'm always invited to all the extended relatives events. But I hope that being my 2nd wedding especially that they'll understand. I've not actually heard of the wedding announcement cards either. Is that a thing? Usually our family just sends a "first Christmas together" type of card or something.

This is a really old thread, but if you read through it, it's a solid no for most posters. I don't think the etiquette has changed since 2013. If I received one, I'd be really taken aback.