Selfish Maid of Honor

Im so sorry I am 3 months out and mine is the exact same way to the point where I went with colors because she was so picky and I am not happy and 2 seconds away from changing all my colors! Stay calm you are right its your day dont let her ruin it. You have waited ong enough to do what you want to do and have it your way. Im in the same boat but we gotta do what feels right to us! Its all good girl! Smile and walk away

I think that since she must be a good friend of yours (being your MOH) you need to take her to lunch and say first off, I want to speak without being interupted: This is MY day and I really need a friend right now that is totally on my side and that is why I asked you to be my MOH so that you could support me til the day of. Please if you have opinions that isn't what I have dreamed of then keep them to yourself until after the wedding. I know what I have invisioned for my day will be amazing and so will you if you would just let it happen. thanks for listening

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I agree wholeheartedly with Michella. You need to politely as possible tell her how you are feeling and remind her that the day is about you not her. When and if she gets married you will support whatever she wants, and now she needs to support you.

Luckily I haven't had to go through this with any of my BM's yet... hopefully I won't.

What I would do in your situation is that everytime she argues with you about something she doesn't like about your wedding, I would turn to her and say "That's a great idea! You should do that at YOUR wedding, but I think I want to do this for our wedding."

I'm also a big person about using the words "Our wedding". That way people know that it's not only me making the decisions, and it's not all about what I want either. FH has a say in everything we are doing for our wedding.

Once people understand that the decisions have to be made by both bride and groom they usually back off on their own oppinions.

Thanks guys! I really appreciate it. I tried being nice and polite about it last night, but I had to listen to over an hour of her life and when I tried to say something, she decided she had to go. I can see how bridezillas happen because I feel the super B***h coming out and I'm trying my best to keep it in and not go totally crazy.

Lol... breathe! Michella is right, tell her its not about her and she needs to listen. If she continues to have a negative nelly attitude than she can surely be bumped for a more positive and upbeat bridesmaid... easy peasy

I've been breathing and contemplating drinking the day of the wedding to refrain from beating her with my high heel lol! She's close to being demoted and I'll boost my long time best friend of like 15 years to MOH. (The only reason she isn't is because she lives in another state and we weren't totally sure she'd be able to make it) But I will definitely remember to breath

I can sympathize! I have two MOH's (one is FH's sister and the other is a long-time friend who would have died had I not asked her). FH's sister just got dumped by her fiance and she wants almost nothing to do with my wedding. The other MOH, my friend, has turned into a super controlling, selfish person through all of it. Our wedding is 6 months away and the other day she told me not to have sex on my honeymoon because she is afraid that I will be pregnant for her wedding and not be able to be in her bridal party (NOTE: she is not even engaged). She is also planning super expensive activities for myself and all the other bridesmaids, most of whom are on a budget and have extensive law school loans like myself. She is basically doing everything she wants, is helping me with nothing I really need help with, and trying to spend our money. She is out of control and I am freaking out!! I don't want to clobber her with a high heel on the day of my wedding lol!! Pls HELP!!!

This MOH also keeps asking me to help her plan her wedding even though she isn't even engaged yet to her boyfriend. I tried to kindly tell her that I am totally underwater right now (6 mos out from my wedding with a ton to do, trying to buy a car, find an apt with FH and pass the bar/get a job). She responded very nastily and told me "I did not understand" her situation and proceeded to ignore me when I asked her for help on welcome baskets etc. for my wedding. I am totally regretting asking her and at this point I'm really wanting to just throw her out. I just want to make sure our wedding day isn't ruined by her selfishness and I'm not really sure what to do. I don't want to have to kick her out if there is a better way, but I've tried talking to her and hinting that I am overwhelmed and she does nothing to understand or help.