Self-conscious about Length of Religious Ceremony

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Thank you Rachel! That is very true, I do feel that I would experience some guilt if I didn't go through with a fully religious ceremony. It wouldn't be true to me or FH to cut it out!

As for having people complain, how about you be the wedding bouncer You can roam the aisles throwing out those that make too much of a fuss. I like that plan

You all have been so wonderful and have given such great advice! Thank you to everyone who replied to this and I am sorry I haven't been able to get back to everyone. I am working on it This got way more attention than I anticipated.

I personally prefer ceremonies to be on the shorter side. That being said, I am getting married to my fiance in my family's Catholic church. We are not doing the full mass since he was only baptized and it was not super important to me to have the full mass. The deacon marrying us said it will still be about 45 minutes. With less than a month left before our wedding, I've already felt pressures on both sides. There are people who are not as religious or maybe not Catholic that are not thrilled about us having a Catholic ceremony and there are also people on the other side who are very religious who are not thrilled we are not doing a full mass. Most of my family and friends have actually not commented either way (as it should be lol). Do what works for you and your fiance. Like others said you'll always upset somebody and on your wedding day, you should do what makes you and your fiance most happy. I am actually looking forward to the ceremony the most right now because I feel like it's the only part of the day that is all about me and FH.

I’m non-religious but raised Catholic, so I’m not entirely sure what the requirements are for Episcopalian communion but the only real reason I’d consider taking it out is if most of your guests are ineligible to take communion, as that would likely make them very uncomfortable. If that’s not the case, then do what you want. I think most people expect religious ceremonies to be long anyway.

Honestly, I'm a person who prefers shorter ceremonies but if I knew that a friend or loved ones religion was that important... I would do it for them. Dont sacrifice something that's important to you for the sake of others. I know it seems important to make adjustments but of this is important to you, they can grin and bear it.

Enjoy your ceremony.

In my opinion it doesn't matter what the guests want. This is you and your fh day and you should go with what the two of you want.

View Quoted Comment Oh, Speaking from My Job as a Veterans Assistant, I will tell You Most Definitely to Have Cushions in the Pews! Especially if You have any Elderly People attending Your Wedding. They may have trouble standing up, & as I have had to help some Veterans up, it helps greatly if There’s Cushions in the Pews!!!

sometimes the Veterans will wear a sliding type fabric like silk, or linen. If it’s not very tight on them, & there’s no Cushions, they end up sliding down as they’re trying to stand up.

Added bonus: In my experience, it helps with Squeaky Pews.

I don’t like Squeaky Pews. I will also tell you that if you decide to have your wedding ceremony video recorded, You definitely want Cushions in the Pews because if the camera person/tripod is under 5ft tall, you will hear the Squeaks of the Sears when Everyone sits down.

I will I’ll never forget my oldest cousins wedding.

they had it in a church with wooden pews. They had no Cushions. They had 2 video Camera People.

1st Video Camera Person following the bride, & the Dad of the brides they got up to the front.

2nd Video Camera Person staying at the front the whole time.

when we viewed the video a few weeks later, the first thing you heard after the Pastor telling everyone to please sit was a Loud, SqueSlide.

dont know what that is?
ok, I will describe it.
Imagine You hear a squeaky wheel.
ok. Now 50 Squeaky wheels.
While your hearing the 50 Squeaky wheels, add a slow, deep sliding sound.
( like when you try to move a wooden table by sliding it across a hard material floor. )

thats is what it sounded like.
Every time the congregation stood up/sat down as a group! It was horrible! They had to edit it out!