Just Said Yes October 2019

Seating chart at bridal shower

Jane, on August 20, 2019 at 10:42 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7
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So I’m not sure if there is “etiquette” to this or not but I wanted to ask. My moms best friend is throwing me a shower. My future mother and sister in law are flying in town just to come to my shower. All of my bridesmaids will be there too along with family and friends. They are doing assigned seating and my mom said she sat me with her, the host, my aunt, my future mother in law and sister in law and a few other family/friends. Personally, I’d love to sit with my bridesmaids but I don’t know if there are certain rules on this. Id love to get any feedback! Thank you!


  • Kristen
    Dedicated November 2019
    Kristen ·
    I have never been to a shower that had assigned seating. Always just sit wherever you want and mingle with whoever. Can you ask them to not assign seating so you spend equal time with everyone?
  • Caytlyn
    Champion November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
    I’ve never attended a shower with a seating chart. I would just have a chat with her about it. If it’s a big deal to her, how much time are you going to spend in your seat anyway?
  • Hannah
    VIP July 2019
    Hannah ·
    I've also never attended a shower with assigned seating. For mine, they had assigned a seat for me as the guest of honor and had balloons on my chair. I sat with my bridesmaids, but they were also who hosted the shower.
  • J
    Master 0000
    Judith Online ·
    The hostess does the seating plan if there is one, not a guest ( you ) at the shower. You only have say in things at the wedding ceremony or reception. If you host the RD, you have say there. If future in- laws or friends host the RD, they decide things not you. Always the host de ides, not a guest, not a guest of honor.
  • Colleen
    Master September 2019
    Colleen ·
    In all honest I would just sit there. She already did it and it was probably a lot of works. I am sure there will be a lot of time you can see your bridesmaids during the shower. It just does not seem worth a fight or drama. Or taking a chance of hurting someone’s feelings.
  • Lady ·

    My MIL threw me a shower that was huge and she did assigned seating just bc there were so many people - I sat with moms, gmas, and sisters. At most showers I've been to, the bride sits with her family vs. the bridesmaids. But there's no "rules" about what you have to do.

  • Cristy
    Rockstar May 2020
    Cristy ·

    I've never heard of assigned seating at a bridal shower. Why? It's usually not necessary, as it's a much smaller group, and assigned seating is way too formal for a shower. Why not just let everyone sit where they want?

    It's likely that you and your guests won't spend every minute in your seats anyway.

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