Scared of all the attention?

Me! I'm absolutely worried and have been seeing a therapist to work on tips to get over this. My biggest fear is ugly crying the entire day. I cry about everything (that's super fun ugh) and once I start it takes awhile to stop. I'm legit worried the emotions mixed with being in front of people will equal me ugly crying the entire ceremony. I think I will be drunk enough by the reception but everything else is legit anxiety ridden.

This is my biggest source of anxiety..I just plan to make sure I drink enough wine where i'm relaxed the entire night...I hate being the center of attention but as the bride you basically have no choice..lol

YES! I have been anxious about this since I got engaged! But with FH beside me I'll be okay!

@bee me too!! ETA: about the ugly crying!

Jessica and bee - same here! I seriously was thinking of taking a chill pill - my friend takes xanax- but I never have used it before

Yep! Honestly we're going towards a smaller wedding for cost wise and that reason. I'll be in panic mode and won't be able to enjoy the wedding lol.

You are definitely not alone. I felt the same way before our wedding. Honestly, if it's really bad, I highly recommend doing a small, intimate ceremony with just family and close friends first, if you are able to. I really wish I had done that instead. I knew I was going to be nervous but when the day came it was worse than I imagined. It was so bad that it caused me to do somethings I wish I had done differently. For example, I walked down the aisle too fast, stared into the crowd almost the entire time I was walking down the aisle because everyone was staring at me, walked super fast out of the ceremony and forgot my bouquet, and danced awkwardly fast during our first dance. I also felt like I couldn't really take in some moments because my nerves just took over. I'm not sure if the ceremony idea is a possibility for you, but if it is than definitely consider it. If not then my best advice is to just be aware of yourself and everything going on, try to really take in the moments, and not let the nerves get the best of you.

All eyes are only on you for essentially the ceremony- and that is admittedly a little weird- otherwise you're just hanging out with you friends and your new husband.

You're not alone. Almost immediately after we got engaged, I started worrying about this. I hate being the center of attention. I'm also extremely shy and get very nervous when speaking in front of a group of people. I've calmed down a little since I know I'll be with FH, but it still worries me. I wanted a small ceremony and an intimate gathering, but that's not happening since FH's family is so big. I just hope to be able to calm myself a little and enjoy the experience once the big day arrives.

Guys, I was the same way. I hate being the center of attention and worried about the same things. I was so nervous leading up to it and especially about the ceremony, but it ended up being my favorite part! You hear it all the time, but it's true that you're just so happy that you don't even care or think about all eyes on you.

You're definitely not the only one! I'm also quite terrified of being in spaces with lots of people. In this case it's not too bad because I know everyone, but I like to be hidden and not be in the center of attention. Unfortunately for my nerves, I decided I want to sing FH a song during the reception. Eek! But we're all gonna do great, I'm sure!

For me, once I saw my H, everything else just faded away into the background.

I have huge amounts of social anxiety and it was okay.

I was a little apprehensive, but then when I realized that all the people I loved came to support me on the most important day of my life thus far, it was very humbling. It went from apprehension to gratitude.

I am nervous about the walk down the aisle and the ceremony. I feel like the rest of the evening will be people socializing with each other and drinking and dancing. Not just staring at me all night. If you can make it through the ceremony I think you'll be fine.

Thank you everyone for being so kind and understanding! I dont think I will be a complete train wreck, but I know Ill be kinda sweaty and shaky lol I think once the ceremony and the first dance and Father/Daughter are over, I'll feel much better.

And I do plan on having a couple mimosas before the ceremony to chill out more. My bridesmaids are all really good at relaxing me and my FH knows all the tricks to keep me calm, so I'm sure itll be fine. I just had a bit of a freak out moment last night lol

It may help to think about the source of anxiety. Has someone who will be attending your wedding give you cause for fear? Are you afraid something will go haywire? Ruminate on what might really be bothering you and then, meditate on the solution. For example, if you have a family member who tends to make everything about them, think, "Their issues are about them, not me. I am in control of this situation." If you're worried, say, that the caterer will mess up the orders, be sure to double-check everything for peace of mind.

Just remember, you're getting married. With FH by your side, all will be possible.

I was the same way at my wedding. What I did was, when I was walking down the aisle, I locked onto my DH, didn't look away at all. For all I knew, the room could have been empty. During the ceremony, my back was to the guests, so I didn't see them. The ceremony was the best part! Our officiant had us laughing and crying and it was wonderful. So, my advice, stare at your FH the whole way down the aisle, you'll never notice the guests, and it makes for very romantic pics (remember to smile, and keep bouquets around the hip area).

At first we were planning on 150 guest so I was a little nervous, but then we sliced our guest list in half so I felt a little better since those guest would be people I speak to regularly. I do practice as much as I can. For example I try to present more in meetings at work, I'm part of the PTA at my daughter's school so I volunteer to be the speaker at small events we host.

But when I say the vows I'm going try to block everything out and just pretend its me and my FH in a room.

Oh god, i just got nervous reading your post because i hadn't thought about that part of the wedding yet!

SEE WE ARE ALL FREAKING OUT OR HAVE FREAKED OUT! Just throw back a mimosa and strut down that aisle, you'll be fine.