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Save The Dates - Necessary or Not?

Lynnie, on January 13, 2020 at 5:05 PM Posted in Planning 1 101

Are you sending out save the dates so your guests can put your wedding on their calendar ASAP? Or are you skipping this extra expense?

Save the dates...are they necessary? Or not??

Save The Dates - Necessary or Not? 1

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Latest activity by Bo Miller, on July 21, 2020 at 10:10 AM
  • Jeanette
    Expert July 2022
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    I don't really get this one... Maybe it's an unpopular opinion but I feel like this is yet another industry-fueled unnecessary step just to get everybody ordering more junk. I'm gonna send out our invites when I think our guests need to know and that's the end of it. Guests forget to RSVP because it was early? I email them... 馃憤
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  • Jill
    Expert April 2020
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    We sent Save the Dates due to everyone needing to travel for our wedding. I think they are essential for destination weddings!

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  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2020
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    We sent out Save the dates due many people traveling and needing to make arrangements for flights and traveling arrangements.

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  • A
    Devoted October 2020
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    I鈥檓 just sending out my invites a little earlier than usual (February or March for an October wedding)
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
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    Necessary? No. But we sent them and I enjoy receiving them. Having advance notice is always nice.

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  • C
    Super January 2020
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    Necessary? Probably not. However if you have a lot of out of town guests it helps them plan their travel in advance. Also if you have guests who need to ask off work it is better the earlier they know so I would do it for your guests.
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  • Glacier
    Dedicated June 2020
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    We did digital STDs through Evites. It was free and we are able to send them through text and messenger. It worked out great.
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  • Jordan
    Expert March 2021
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    Our wedding is a destination wedding and about 75-80% of our guest will have to travel. We sent our Save the Dates out about 1 year before the wedding. That way it gives them plenty of time to take time off from work, look at hotels, book flights and transportation. We just wanted to give our guest as much notice as we can. Smiley smile

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  • Nicole
    Super August 2020
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    Now that I鈥檝e ordered save the dates and my wedding is 7 months away, I鈥檝e only sent out probably half them. Now I鈥檓 debating if I should send the other half or just send them invitations when it鈥檚 time. I think they鈥檙e cute, but I wish I didn鈥檛 order so many and just sent them to the people who are from out of town or I know 100% I want to invite them. I鈥檝e given save the dates to people I thought I was close to and wanted at my wedding, now we don鈥檛 really talk or I feel distant from them and wish I could cut them off the guest list. I do think they鈥檙e necessary though especially if your wedding is during summer or dates where people normally make plans.
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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
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    Given our invitees have all kinds of untraditional jobs with odd hours and such, we felt these were necessary.

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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
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    I don't think they're necessary
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  • Savvy May 2021
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    Im sending these out because we have a lot of family all over US and Europe and that way people will have a physical card with the date so we don鈥檛 have people calling every other day asking what date the wedding is.
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  • Amanda
    Dedicated January 2021
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    For us it is a necessary because most of our guests are traveling and his whole family is in another state. We want them to know way ahead of time!

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  • BETH M.
    Savvy December 2021
    BETH M.
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    Depending on how big you wedding is and how far out it is. i personally say yes most people need a full year to request and schedule a vacation or long distance travel.
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  • Stefanie
    Expert July 2020
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    We are not doing save the dates. Why waste money on something that is just going to go into the garbage?
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  • Merline
    Super February 2020
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    We sent them our because we have a lot of out of town guest, but we sent them electronically.

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  • Kayla
    Beginner October 2020
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    We did save-the-dates because 98% of our guests are traveling from other states (most will have a 3+ hr flight or 8-9+ hr drives) and I wanted to give people enough time to plan their travel. It's not a "destination wedding" for us, but it is for almost everyone that we've invited.
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  • Elena
    Dedicated August 2020
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    I like Save The Dates and think they are necessary depending on circumstance. A lot of my family and other guests I am inviting travel, so I feel the Save The Date gives them an extra heads up. Plus they are fun!

    My Save The Date cards were very budget friendly, I made post cards so I could use a post card stamp and did not need to purchase envelopes. About 100 cards cost me $70

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  • Kirstin
    Dedicated June 2021
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    We did do save the dates since our wedding was a year out. Also with spread out family and friends we thought it would be helpful
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  • Anjelik
    Savvy September 2021
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    I鈥檓 sending them out because i have a lot of out of state family coming, so they can be prepared
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