Your relationship sounds toxic and has serious red flags. I remembered your past posts and checked your profile to confirm and you have never made a single happy post here. You've been sad for months. Your relationship and FH are making you depressed all the time from the sound of things. I really hope you reconsider and postpone and seek couples counseling and some individual counseling, as well.
It’s just a color. You are going to be the center of attention ! Don’t let her spoil your day
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I have to agree. I'm honestly worried your relationship is going to become more toxic over time. It seems like your fiance doesn't care about you and you shouldn't marry him. Definitely seek counseling.
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She just spoked it again. Tonight she cried and cried and cried and carried on after dinner claiming she thought the wedding was on Saturday and not on Friday. She new we changed it and told her a thousand times . And tonight even at dinner I confirmed with her about the makeup person coming to do her hair and makeup at 2 ....now she she says she might not be able to go to the wedding chaise she dodnt take that day off ...she is pure evil. Shes doing this cause she knows er dad chose for us to go to our honey moon and not er sta and do
I think she is pure evil. Tonight after we discussed about the wedding being on Friday and she has know this since the invitations were out in December and that we had changed the date before we handed out te invites as being Friday july 19th. She claims tonight see thought it was Saturday July 29th she never asked off from work . Omg...he is doing this caise he begged her dad not to go on the honey moon but to go to her stag add do
Then oh well, she might miss the wedding. The show will go on without her. You need to adopt a laissez faire attitude and not let her know her drama is getting to you. Her failure to plan is not your emergency to solve.
She does everything to make it all about her. When we were all having dinner together , all she kept doing was talling about her wedding Her dad enguaged in the conversation because hes do excited about her wedding . I feel so sad . When we announced out wedding in July she announced her wedding in October. When I went to get my dress she did thr same . Just to be nice the one day when we came back to town I told her of all my decorations . She called her dad and told him that I should surrender all my decorations to her. This was the idea . Her original ide. Yet she declaring she never discussed it with me omg . My attendant had a touquoise dress she Tom's him she should change it cause that was her colors...imagine that we never even discussed who was wearing what color. I could just cry Oh ya forgot to mention when we announced we were getting married she reminded him that if he ever got married again he had expressed to our his balls off ....with that said last night she also cried because she wasnt part of the wedding ...omg....
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It sounds like your FH is the problem. He’s enabling her behavior by not setting boundaries and expectations for her. While you can certainly blame her because as an adult she shouldn’t behave this way, if he’s allowed this behavior and catered to it her entire life, she doesn’t know how else to behave. If you don’t give children consequences you can expect their behavior will continue into adulthood and that’s exactly what your FH has allowed to happen. Good luck because honestly, I don’t see this changing and I wouldn’t want to live my life with someone who’s willing to put another adult’s needs/wants over mine.
I would be very annoyed too, but try not to let it stress you. On the day of your wedding when she shows up in white, every. Single. Guest. Is going to be judging her. She’s going to look like the jerk, trust me.
Finally got married july 19th. Never got to finish many of the decoration ideas I wanted to do for the wedding. We were always going away, every 6 weeks to go visit his daughter, son and his mom. 7 hour drive . 14 hours there and back . Sometimes we would stay there a week. So all my deco projects would stay unstated or unfinished Then when I finally stated getting into it. He announced we would leave on wednesday instead of Thursday I had packed and unpacked over a dozen times because he couldn't make up his mind about his da8ghters stag and do queen we were away on our honeymoon. He wanted to go so so very bad . He dodnt want to miss on her events. We finally did go away . Cancelled what we had planned and went completely thr other way. The day before and the day off he was awfully moody. All he kept talking about was the stag and so wishing he was there. Finding out also later on that evening the reason he didnt want to get married in october....he new how much it meant to me to have an october wedding as you already know we had July. Found put why not an October wedding is because his daughter wanted all her life to get married in october Her stag and do was a week after we got married found out why people were not donating to our charity benefit . We didnt want wedding gifts . Rather we asked people to donate to the mental health association Only three did out of 65 people reason. People chose to donate to the stag and do she also handed out invitations to her wedding at our wedding ....I'm so sad and hurt the honey moon was more of a rest for me as I walked the beach and watch the tides
Hi, we had the wedding in july 19th..it was ok the night before the wedding, despite the daughter knew that the wedding was on the 19th, she claimed she didt know but thought it was the 20th. She threw a whole drama fit She handed out invitations to her wedding in october Even though she was reminded to come at 2 to get haor and makeup done for 2 she only showed up at 330. Because of her being late everyth9ng was thrown off schedual
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It's hard not to fall into to her attention when she makes a big crying scene confront of a restaurant which we all went to two nights before the wedding . She told her dad she had never taken off work cause she thought the wedding was on the 20th of july not thr 19 not to forget to mention she wore white on my wedding and handied wedding invites on my wedding to her wedding also nothing not one wanted to donate to our charity whi h was the mental health society which we were doing instead of gifts because the following friday they were having their stag and do which I just found put the arranged themselves. She knew very well her dad would be away bit had her party on this day to make him chose As for our fundraiser we got 20 dollars and she collected 2000. For her stag and do. People addmitantly didnt really want to spend for two events side by side and felt they should encourage his daughter instead . .. I'm so sad
Most of this mess is avoidable. Now as a couple you need to do what you should have a year ago, and set ground rules for what behavior you will and won't tolerate from her. If you two cannot agree, it is not going the ever be better until you get divorced. If you do not matter as much as his daughter, and he cannot talk about reasonable decision making about things, your marriage won't work. . . You need to let go of the stuff about her getting things, vs your fund raising. If she did not have any event, huge numbers of people who hate being told to donate instead of choose their own gift, would have said, fine, no gift and not donated either. Weddings should not be fundraising efforts. So that may have had little success with nothing for competition. Especially as he was married before, and many people do not give gifts after a first wedding, if they gave gifts for a first wedding. And she is marrying for the first time .
True said about stag and do verses ourcwedding. Though , with that being said in the notice we expressed instead of gifts please donate to the mental health association. We had such a great response when people were handing back there rsvps. Expressing theu would do so at the wedding the quests his family and friends all thought this to be such a great thing we were doing . Then about a month before pur wedding shE announced her stag and do and registry. As I stated before her stag and do a week after our wedding... Her dad asked her why she set the date after our wedding, she said her wedding matters more....that shows you what kind of selfish person she is