Rudest, worst excuse guest cancellation a week before?!

We didn't have any no-shows or cancellations fortunately. We had one person who told us two days before his date could no longer come because she wants to go to a house party and asked if he could sub another girl. We told him the place card was already in his original girls name. He said he didn't care. Oh well at least we didn't lose money on it.

Crazy pants declined in the appropriate timeframe. Not the lame cousin. Or really 7 other folks who are never invited to any of my events again!! Good luck with your venue!

That's obnoxious. ROAR!

I didn't have any cancel, but I had lots of no-shows.

My bridesmaids' husbands and two children (that makes 6 people) were sick the weekend of my weddings, so they didn't come. Then a family of three didn't come because the wife was sick. And two bailed the day of because of a work thing. Finally, 4 no-showed and didn't even acknowledge the wedding or not showing up or anything. All these people RSVPed yes, by the way.

Honestly, these types of things frustrate me but I absolutely and completely understand them.

I think a lot of people think the same way they do about weddings as they do about birthday parties, random BBQs, etc. I think they think of them as a party. And I don't think they think about the money that is being spent on them in order to put the event together.

They cancel the same way they would cancel any other event. They don't think ahead of what might be that weekend -- they say "yeah that's be a great party to go do!" and then closer to the date when they have to decide between two things, they often pick the other like it's no big deal.

Not surprising ... not fun ... but inevitable

Kylene you are right, people who haven't planned a wedding (and strangely, even some who have) just don't see it as a big deal. I had a friend who is single RSVP for 2 and then I found out from another single friend who is also invited that the two of them are going together, without dates. I asked the first girl if she was including the 2nd girl in her RSVP and she was like "no, but who knows maybe I'll meet someone and find a date!" I told her I was trying to get an accurate count and she goes "oh that actually really matters??"

My worst excuse came from my old next door neighbor. We've been really close the last four years, and when I moved we still stayed close. I only moved ten minutes away from her. Well she got a save the date card, and I mailed out my invitations nine weeks before the wedding. She never sent her rsvp back, and I was contacting all the people I hadn't heard back from. I texted her, got no response, I sent her a message on fb asking if she and her partner were coming or not, she read the message but never responded. Finally two days before my final head count was due I called her, no answer. I texted her again, and she responds with, " Sorry, were not coming. I can't get off work". WTF???? Seriously....... You can't tell me in the nine F'ing weeks you've had the invitation that you can't get off. I was super hurt over this, because we were so close, and I really wanted her there. I said screw it, and deleted her from my phone, fb, and email.

"Were not coming because Lee (fh) rode past our house on his ATV the other day and didn't bother to stop".............................................................. ummmmmmmmmmmmm

I vote that you follow Celia's advice and send her a bill. Or wait for Christmas or her birthday to come around and send her a nicely wrapped gift box. Just include a letter that says " I was going to buy you this gorgeous (insert item here) but you flaked on my wedding and left me holding the tab for $xxx that went unused. So instead of buying (whatever gift was) I decided I would just deduct the amount for that item from the money I wasted for you to not attend my wedding"

@Bride2Be2014 please tell me they were kidding... no one can be that self centered right?

Your friend sucks, but all you can do is say "woosah", tell her no problem, and cut her off. No room for flaky people like that.

We had 19, yes 19, no shows at our wedding. Out of 134 guests, 115 showed.

Some of the excuses were:

"Something came up."

"My husband has to work and I don't think I can come alone."

"So and so was in the hospital." (not actually sure of this)

"My girlfriend got called into work."

"I didn't feel like bringing my guest."

blah, blah, blah. IDGAF. We know who our real family and friends are!

I currently have 1 person who is on the fence. He has a business meeting in the Philipines that week and he was supposed to get back Saturday, but they changed his flight so that he gets in Sunday afternoon. I imagine he'll be exhausted but I told him just to keep me posted.

One of the GM's long term girlfriends didn't want to come because she wouldn't know anyone (false.. like hello, her friends will be there as well as us), if she did come she was going to bring her best friend, neither FH or I know alleged BFF. AND then, she made the excuse that her family would be in town (who live 30 min away and are in town every other weekend). Good riddance, honestly.

A friend I've known for 15 years declined, I was sad but it was before the deadline so no problem. A week before the wedding a friend who I've known even longer who had RSVP'd yes had to decline due to a legitimate family issue, ok no problem. Friend A calls the week of the wedding saying now she can come and is that ok. I say yes since Friend B had to cancel I have a seat open.

The day of the wedding Friend A emails and says sorry I can't make it after all (no reason why). I'm not pissed that I paid for the plate but really? You decline, then want to come and then decline the day of? WTF?

I would be pissed...what a way for your "friend" to give a lame excuse while trying to not state the obvious that she doesn't care to attend your wedding

MrsM....OMG. I would have murdered all those people. Seriously.

Meh, we know who we are not obligated to attend things for now. =) Plus they missed a REALLY good party. Their loss.

We did waste a LOT of money though on them and that still makes me ANGRY!

I had a friend decline bc it was her 40 th bday and she wanted to go on a big trip. Mind you the weekend before my wedding is closer to her actual bday, but whatever no one cares about my wedding as much as I do.

I had another friend decline bc she thought my wedding was a Saturday (it's a Sunday) and mistakenly bought tickets to a football game. So she can't make it. So glad I sent you a STD. I see that was really helpful.

And finally, lamest of all, one "friend" won't come bc she feels uncomfortable bc she only knows me and one other person. Well, sweetie, that's more than some of my other guests. And this is a chick who goes to bars alone, dinner alone, and has gone to foreign countries alone. You don't wanna come to my wedding don't, but come up with a better reason. I'm many things, but stupid isn't one.

DH's favorite uncle said he was coming and then a few weeks later bailed. He told us it was because he couldn't get off of work..(He works 2 jobs as a radiologist), but he told my MIL that he wasn't coming because his wife wouldn't let him since we didn't invite her...DH wanted to call him and go off on him because we DEF invited her. We invited him, his wife, and their teenage daughter....Pathetic excuse...