Rude vendor

The rudest vendor o have had was the one who sat there and tried to sell the venue to my mom. But my FH and I are paying for our own wedding. We decided against that vendor.

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I just had a horrible experience with a bridal boutique. I called to make an appointment and the lady answered the phone so rudely, she said "what do you want?" That's it. No thanks for calling so and so, nothing! I asked if I called the right place and she said "yeah!" I told her to have a good day and hung up. This place has so many dresses but all of their reviews mention how rude they are!

One lady got nasty with me on the phone because my date was a year away... I hung up on her. All I wanted was a-roundabout price

I'm 29 and I overheard a consultant at a bridal shop refer to me as "the little girl who was coming back in to show her dad her top dress picks." Fortunately, it was not my consultant that I overheard saying this and I will be going back to purchase my dream dress next month. The part of me that was offended wanted to say something to correct her, but the mature adult in me knew to just let it go.

My sister is on the larger size (size 18 maybe). When I was helping her shop for dresses, we went into one dress salon, and the owner said "you may as well stop looking, you won't find anything you like available in your size". Umm, what?

That's what u gotta do!

Not quite a vendor, but I was a little off-put by the person helping us with our registry appointment this weekend (I thought they just sent you off with a scanner, but someone led us around for 1.5 hours). He kept making "happy wife happy life" comments to FH, as if he's not going to eat off the dishes just as much as I will and as if happy husbands don't make for happy wives. He also just really kept going on and on about how everyone is so ecstatic for us that they will want to drop tons of money, and how we should make sure to put EVERYTHINGGGGG on our registry now or else we'll be spending our hard earned dollars later. Mmmm pretty sure everyone else worked hard for their money too, and I'm pretty sure most people's reactions to good news isn't "I'm so happy for them I can't wait to spend some monayyyy!!!!" Oh another odd one was that the registry will stay up for like 1-2 years after the wedding, so people will log on and get us stuff for our future birthdays, JOB PROMOTIONS etc. What? Has anyone seriously gotten a gift for their friend who just got a promotion? Like take them out to a congratulatory dinner sure, but like... if you're getting a promotion maybe you can buy the stand mixer yourself, lol....

He was super friendly, and I appreciate that it's his job to make you scan in a bunch of expensive items, but... that's just not our world view.

Kalt, I'm with you-- it sounds dismissive to me. I think you did the right thing to take your business elsewhere-- there are enough vendors in most areas that you don't have to work with people who irk you.

Thanks zoe! I just couldn't believe it. This has not been the first time I have gotten the baby bride thing. I actually had a lady at a jewelry store ask if I was expecting because "you must have a reason for getting married so young".... ummm ya it's called we have been together since 7th grade... idiots

@annakay511 I also teach high school special education. This is my 2nd year . People always comment on how young I am. FH and I are so established I don't feel like a young bride... explaining to parents that I am only 5 or 6 years older than their seniors is interesting hahaha

I went to a bridal dress shop and I had a rude owner. Got to move on and hope that you find another vendor that is better

The owner of our almost photography company was extremely rude to me and my mom on the phone, going so far as to harass me while I was at work and then when my mom called her to tell her not to bother me at work, the woman lied to my mom about conversations she and I had had, and wouldn't let my mom get a word in edgewise. A lot of our vendors have made the joke that the wedding is all about the bride, which I usually laugh off but it really does bother me, I don't want FH to think he is less important! People can be so rude and tasteless sometimes, ugh

I made my own dress, but decided to shop a bit just in case I did want to order one.

I told the woman I wanted a ball gown, she looked at me like I had just told her 'I am from the planet Nezbit, take me to your leader' She then told me that there were no ballgowns available in my size. (I'm a plus size) I knew this was a lie because I'd done my research. I told her the designers that did plus size ball gowns, and she snapped at me "we don't carry their dresses, you need something for a older bride! "

The dreses she gave me to try on were not what I wanted at all. After 3 dresses I told her I was done for that day and needed to think about it. She left the dressing room, and I started looking the racks myself. A younger consultant came up and helped me find ball gowns that were available for order in my size. She apologized for what had happened to me, and told me that was the owner. :/ I did shop at one other place and the consultant was young, and it was a much better experience . I didn't end up buying a dress, still made my own but I did feel better after going shopping and finalizing the decision that a store bought dress wasn't for me, and I was able to stop worrying about it I did stay true to my vision and sewed and wore a ball gown.

I had a consultant at DB say, "well I brought you everything in your size in your budget", after trying to put me in a bra/slip too small. I'm currently a street 16 and even I know she should have been pulling 18-20s. She didn't even offer to put me in something bigger and clip me into it. The alterations lady (who came out from the back because she wasn't busy) helped me in and out of dresses more than the consultant did.

My invitation guy was an asshole. I found him at a bridal show and I LOVED his work. Our first visit to his home to pick our invited went fine. Then when sending our guest list to him for envelope printing, he thought I didn't follow his directions and started talking down to me. Then we had to cancel our meeting to pick up the invites because roads were icy. He said we could come at a later date but we still had to send him the payment ASAP (before we picked up the final product.). He flat out told us he needed the money because he can't really afford his company. Nice dude, nice.

ETA: I forgot about the sales associates at Alfred Angelo. I got my cathedral length veil from them. Well first it took 3 months longer then they said to get it (thank goodness I picked it early.). When calling and asking about it I was met with an attitude of "how dare I question them." A call to the main offices fixed that and cut the price in half. Then i called like 8 weeks before the wedding because I wanted to see if I could get a bustle or something on it do I could shorten it and wear it all night. I was told "no we can't do that." Ok fine. But then she tried to push me into buying the same veil I had in fingertip length. She was like "I already have you're credit card, I'll just charge it! Just be warned it may not be here by your wedding!" I almost flipped my shit.

I've had no trouble yet thankfully

These stories are so intriguing. It's amazing how stupid people can be.

I experienced a lot of sexism with the DJs we spoke with. Almost none of them wanted to talk to me without FH on the phone.

ETA: oh, we've had a couple other rude vendor experiences...(1) a photographer who responded, "did you just go with who was cheapest?!" When I emailed him to let him know we chose someone else, and (2) a jewelry store who refused to speak to us because they assumed we couldn't afford their rings. When we finally got them to speak with us and told them our budget, they changed their tone very quickly. Nonetheless, we left.

We were looking at rings at a huge jewlery place (a bunch of jewlery vendors in one building) and when I was at a few of them asking to see some rings they'd look at my simple solitaire and say "oh that one is very expensive" ummm excuse me but I never told you what our budget was. Pfft didn't buy from them.