Rude vendor

I've dealt with only one rude vendor so far and I still have to work with them unfortunately. They are supplying the dance floor and the outdoor chairs for are wedding. I asked if they had a military discount because I've been asking everywhere and they said they do. I got an email the next day asking if we could still afford it with the discount (it's $400).

One rude vendor. He put down EVERYTHING we had decided on. Never met our photographer? She must be horrible! Already have a photo booth? not as good as ours (actually ours is far superior in looks and product but thanks). My brother is marrying us (he's done quite a few wedding including 2 of our siblings), he'll be horrible, hire me instead. And he would not stop calling and e-mailing FH and I.

He left such a bad taste in my mouth that even if he had been the only DJ available for our date i'd dj with an ipod myself all night rather than deal with him. I'm not sure how he ended up as on of the preferred vendors at our venue, but i did let the venue coordinator know we had a bad experience with him. I finally told him point blank that my non response to him should have told him everything he needed to know. We hired someone else and we were not interested in any of his other services and if he continued to contact me I would report him for harassment (seriously calls and e-mails to us both every day)

If it makes you feel better, I still get carded for R rated movies and I am closer to 26 than 25. The first time I went to look for a wedding band before deciding to use my great grandmother's, the woman literally insinuated that this must be a shotgun teenage wedding because I was looking at the cheaper bands. I was like uhhhhh I'm 25 and NOT pregnant, I just don't want to spend as much on the band as FH did on my e-ring, but thanks. Needless to say, I also left quickly.

I would for sure take offense to "baby bride". It sounds very demeaning!

I spoke with a DJ who kept saying he was giving me "fatherly advice" when talking about my music options. I am 22, I look 22, and am very short, so he treated me like I didn't have a clue. Um, dude, I have a father, and I ask him for advice. You don't need to assume I have no idea what I'm doing just because I'm young. He was also just really sleazy and full of himself. Yuck.

I agree with the previous vendor, not all are the same. Before I went into business, I observed how vendors were treating me, evaluating the work quality and timelines that were set. I have learned from their mistakes and created a business based on that.

There are many people to chose from, definitely keep looking until you find one that works well for you!

That's horrible.

We have had one bad homophobic situation so far. One venue refused to look at/shake hands/acknowledge FW. He was a real prick about it.

I talked to a photographer who told us that we would not be able to request certain shots because they are too over done and she isnt just ant other photographer... we crossed them off the list.

My only big problems were that a wedding dress store actually refused to put any dresses on me because she assumed I couldn't afford it and didn't want to needlessly wrinkle the dresses... Really? I wouldn't be shopping if I didn't have a budget. I've also had a lot of issues with vendors finding it strange my FI is always with me to make decisions (except on the dress of course), obviously the vendors we book don't have attitude about anything. There is this one DJ who was very arrogant and felt the need to give me the run down on how weddings work (like I don't already know) and seemed to think the world of himself and his team. Unsolicited advice would probably have been more acceptable if he hadn't seemed so high and mighty... He even assumed he knew how my family worked because his wife is Puerto Rican (we're Hispanic, but we're not all cut from the same clothe)!

I've never had a vendor outright call me a "baby bride", I would definitely NOT book someone who said that to me. The DJ is already tredding on a very thin line as it is. Unfortunately I don't know too many DJs in my area with a good resume...ugh...

I am 23, and I wouldn't take offense to this. If someone assumed I couldn't afford something because of my age, then yes, I would take offense to that..

I was 23 when married and 21/22 when searching for most vendors. I took my mom to a wedding fair because she would enjoy it and liked being involved. DH was happy to help but planning a theme wasn't really his thing lol. When I asked how much a dress was on display at the wedding fair I was told it was out of my range but maybe my mom would help me. Um excuse me? How do you know what my budget is?

Fortunately, I haven't had that experience. But I remember a cake vendor that we tried, she quoted as overpriced 3-tier cake cost $500 with no explanation of charges. I had to respond how the $3.50 per serving ended up with $10 per serving. She provided as new quote but went down to smaller 4-6-8" tier just to stay on our budget of $300. Definitely not getting our cake from her.

Ugh! What a rude comment! I don't understand people like that...don't they want business?

I went to a bridal expo before we were "officially" engaged (we'd been talking about wedding stuff for a looooong time, so I knew it was happening). I was asked by a cake vendor how FH proposed and I said, "He hasn't yet. We have a ring, and we know we're getting married, but he has a special plan for the proposal that's taking place at a certain time that has not happened yet." She turned her nose up at me and started talking to the next bride in line, while I was still in front of her!

We had a horribly rude venue owner. It was a perfect venue but we're getting married elsewhere.

@Future Mrs. Webb- Similar stuff happened to me ALL THE TIME! Even in front of my FH!! It was maddening!

@Jeana and Celia, I agree that most of those websites look very ..odd. I'm glad they exists and they were slightly helpful but if I'm already coming to WW for everything else, it'd be great if everything was included. I've never looked at the wedding wire awards before, but an inclusive one would be great! I've just been shocked by some of the feedback I've received both positive and negative compared to my personal experience at those place and I'd love to tell the world about some of the wonderful vendors we've come across. I would leave reviews but ,for example, we found three wonderfully welcoming photographers but I only have a contract with one of them so I can't review the other two.

Just my own thoughts on how this could be an even better wedding resource.

LOL at our tasting, one of the staff went around the table talking to the couples, all much younger than us. I piped up and told him that we, too, were getting married. He was flippant and unbelieving so i called over our coordinator who was mortified. He apologized profusely and said he learned a lesson in making assumptions. We accepted his apology and reminded him that, unlike the other couples, we didn't have to ask Mom and Dad's permission to spend money (note: most on here are paying for their own weddings, these were not)

We luckily never had any bad vendor experiences BUT I wanted to pipe in my experience as a teacher! I assume based on your age you've been teaching just a couple years. I got my teaching job right after I graduated from college, like a normal person in my opinion lol, at age 22. I CONSTANTLY got such ageist comments!! From coworkers, parents, people in the community, etc. I am a petite person (5'2") which I don't think helps. I thought it was normal to graduate from college and get a job but according to these people apparently not lol. I teach high school and people could not believe I could actually teach and discipline students because of my age. I am now 27, going to be 28 this year and STILL get comments regarding being young and people are surprised I have been teaching for 6 years. If I was in any other industry or profession, I don't think people would be blinking at my age. So if you run into it in the wedding industry, I'm sure (unfortunately) you will also experience it in your professional life, if you haven't already!

I've had 100% positive vendor experiences. I will say though, I wouldn't have immediately left an appointment so abruptly for someone calling me a baby bride. NOW if she meant it like you are acting like a baby, that's another story.

When we were shopping for my e-ring one jeweler actually told us that we're so young (25 me,30 FH at the time) that we shouldn't spend too much money on a ring because I might lose it! I mean when did she decide that I was so irresponsible that its not worth spending money on the ring?! She also brought out a ring with a pear shaped diamond after I said I will cuts like cushion, emerald, princess, radient (see a pattern? Nothing like pear). We of course left a found a great jeweler.

Tux/suit vendors don't seem to know what to do with, "FH is renting his own tux. No, I would not like to schedule an appointment for him. Yes, you can leave your number and he may or may not schedule one himself." It's like vendors simultaneously expect couples to be older than 25 lest they be babies but also for the grooms to be helpless 17 year olds who need Mom's help getting dressed for prom. (And honestly, most 17 year olds can probably handle that on their own, too.)