Rude to invite friends but not aunts and uncles?

In my life family has always come first, but if that's not the case for you do what feels right. Don't invite them. Stay within your means. Good luck girl!

I think it will depend on your family. I am only inviting local family because we aren't really close.

Will not inviting aunts/uncles cause drama? And are some of the cousins also in the friend category? It might cause drama if some are invited but not others.

Are there other guests that you can cut? Like making it an adult only wedding.

I have a large family and although I would to invite everyone we can afford to invite about 60. I decided if I have not seen them in the last year then I'm not inviting them.

Nope not rude at all.

We didn't invite one uncle/aunt couple, from each side. We don't really have a relationship with them, our parents don't have their addresses, etc.

I would say it depends on your family dynamics. Do you live near these aunt/uncles and cousins? Do you see them on a regular basis? If not, then I think it's perfectly fine to not include them. If they are local, you see them regularly, and there would be hurt feelings over it, then I think you need to really evaluate the situation. Nothing makes people crazier than weddings and funerals.

Our guest list was 72 people (including vendors and BP). On my side, I invited aunts, uncles, and cousins because there were so few. On FH side, the cut off was aunts and uncles because there were so many (his A/U alone totaled more than my A/U/C).

Not rude at all!!!

If we invited our aunts, uncles and cousins, we'd have over 200. So, it's children, grandchildren, parents, siblings, nieces, nephews and closest friends. Family is still taking up more than half our small guest list!

Some friends are closer than come family members. Invite from those you are closest to, speak to most often, etc. to least, regardless of whether they are friend of family.

Is there anything that you could possibly scale back on so that you're able to accommodate everyone?

As others have said if you aren't close with these family members or haven't spoken to them in over a year I would say it's perfectly acceptable. I have 2 uncles that I'm not inviting- because I haven't seen or talked with them in years. It really depends on the situation and I think ultimately if you will miss them if they aren't there.

We are doing this. Siblings, parents, niece, nephew, and 1 friend on my side and 2 on his. It still comes to 31 people. It has caused us both to get comments from our aunt, uncles, and cousins. We are close to all of them. We just can't afford to host a wedding with 250 people.

If your not close to your family then I don't see a problem but for me it was family then friends and yes I had to cut some friends but oh well

If you are paying for it, you can invite whomever you want. It's about who the couple finds closest.

I think it's fine if you don't have a close relationship with them and/or they aren't local. I skipped most of my OOT aunts and uncles because I maybe speak to them once a year and they cause my mother so mich grief I don't care to see them. It just depends on your relationships and if you can deal with any hurt feelings.

If you are paying for it, it's your choice. Are you close with any of them? I could definitely see it causing some drama depending on how many friends you are talking about. Another idea could be to invite just the aunts and uncles and not the cousins. That would still give you some room for friends, but could cut down on the drama if that's something you are worried about.

Ultimately though, you should have the people you want there.

It depends. How much drama would it cause if you didn't invite them? If it's going to be a lot of drama and cause irreparable harm to your family (think aunts and uncles never speaking to you or your parents again or bringing it up incessantly for the rest of your lives), then they should be invited. If it isn't s big deal, then don't worry about it! I didn't want to invite my father's sisters to our wedding, but my brother talked me into it because it would have caused so much drama in an already fragile family dynamic. In hindsight, I'm glad I invited them and one of them bought our flowers for us as a gift and gave us money toward our rings.

I think it's fine! I am inviting all mine but it's bc I don't expect them to come bc it's a 1.5/2 hour drive. If they come, they come but I don't think they will. I would definitely pick my close friends over my aunts & uncles I see twice a year though!

First, I think you really need to set that budget.

Also, you've got a lot of time - my guest list isn't finalized and I'm 5/2017; things could change. In the meantime, I wouldn't discuss it with anyone other than your FH (not assuming you have, just sayin').

As far as who to invite, you have to do what you feel in your heart. If you're not close to them, don't invite them. I am inviting all my Aunts/Uncles (except one due to a family rift) because there aren't that many of them, BUT I'm not inviting the adult children of some of my first cousins. I only see them once a year when someone dies (uugghh). We do not communicate via text, social media, phone, etc.

Another set of cousins live near me, but since their sister died I haven't seen them since. I'm also not inviting some Canada cousins. I haven't seen them in God knows how long.

To me, I think so.

I'd rather invite my friends who I talk to, interact with, and are a part of my life than putting more importance on uncle Bill who I haven't seen or talked to n 10 years.

My family is rather large as well. My mom has 8 brothers and sisters all but two have at least 2 kids whom most of which I am close to. The way we are looking at it is if we haven't spoken to them in at least a year, they won't be invited. We limited our friends to those we are super close to. Our guest list is 130 people. Our budget wasn't actually a number but more of we knew what we wanted and we wanted to go as cheap as possible but also not anything trashy. Once it's all said and done we have everything we wanted and are around $14,000