rude people on the Knot message boards!

Wow i just read those and those ppl are something else....i never really liked the knot site myself but i love this one and all the advice i get.

There's a reason I don't do business with the Knot... even though they have a wide advertising edge, I wouldn't do business with them off of principle.

I have voiced my opinions about the abuse on the Knot boards many times here....HOWEVER, those specific examples don't seem abusive to me at all, in fact I think the OP's were a bit too sensitive. If you ASK for opinions you are going to get them and they are not always going to agree with yours. As long as the opinion is stated in a respectful way, ex "I personally don't think that is a good idea.." then that provides a useful debate of ideas which is what you're asking for. It's when they say things like "You are stupid and ugly and your FH is fat and disgusting...etc" that I have a problem with the knot. I love how supportive this site is but we have to be careful to not turn into a bunch of "yes men" just nodding in agreement mindlessly and telling each other how great EVERY idea is, even if we don't really agree. If your friends can't tell you the truth who can, right? So honestly, even when it's hard to hear, is just as helpful as support. Keep up the good work WW!

Um, that's not bad at all. I have, however, seen posts on theknot that were entitled "Who do you hate the most on here?" and it was literally about who you hated the most. And it was a long thread. I was confused.

I was only on there for like an hour and those were the first three posts I happened to click on. Maybe I'm too sensitive as well, but I was surprised at the rudeness of the responses! I agree that people should be honest with each other and shouldn't just be "yes" men (or women), but there are respectful ways to do it, which I have seen on this and other sites. Also, I didn't realize the Knot got to the point where people were called "stupid" and "ugly" or had polls about who was hated the most. Is this middle school? Yeesh.

I was on the knot before I found this website, and the people there are the worst! I swear it is as though you have to be a diva extraordinaire to be a real member! Needless to say, that's why I left. I couldn't stand how rude people were. I am so glad I found WW though, because everyone here is so nice and helpful and NOT rude!

I used to go on the knot but I could never get any good advice. Being new to America im not used to the shops and where to go for things and what to look out for and when id ask for help people acted like I was an idiot or shouldnt even be in America which truly infuriated me considering im not some mail order bride I truly love my fiance with all my heart and since he is in the navy and is based here we cant live in Australia yet. The people on there made me feel like I was some illegal immigrant.

I had never heard of that site. Glad I haven't. I just came to WW, about a month ago and have found this to be more like family and very helpful. I have gotten really good ideas and met lots of fun people. the Knot sorry sounds like the place for the bridezilla's

I also used it before i came here i dont think i've checked back much since i really started using this. I agree no one ever gave any actually helpful advice there. Its ok for looking up some stuff but I would never actually contact anyone including vendors through that site.

Those threads were pretty tame for the Knot. I have seen some where brides were called horrible names... or judgmentally declared cheap, tacky, or thoughtless... for asking outside the box questions about etiquette, traditions, or money saving ideas. Its one thing to give an opinion using those words and to back it with a reason, but its another to just use the words by themselves... which can be very hurtful.

That's why I love it so much here. We don't always agree, but for the most part everyone backs their opinion with reasoning... and does it respectfully.

This site is great-i dont like the knot-my wife to be loves this site to

I have not really looked at that sight till now. Everyone on here has said how bad it can get. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion but there is no need to be nasty about it. That is why I like this site so much. I have only had a bad response once, but other than that everyone is so nice and helpful.

I advertise on The Knot and on WeddingWire, and recently attended a 3-day wedding industry conference at which speakers included top exec's from The Knot and WeddingWire -- and WeddingWire is better in many ways. The people who run it are good people and the whole site is designed to be user-friendly and create win/win situations for both brides and vendors. The Knot is a much pushier, "traditional media" site. It doesn't surprise me that the folks on WeddingWire forums are nicer as well!

I have read so mny bad things about the knot forums! I love WW all through my wedding planning and I still can't say good bye now that I'm married. We all built friendships and understanding on here. Love you all

My wedding web page is through the knot and thats it. My issue wasn't so much with the boards but with the lay out of the site...its a bit confusing. I couldn't find info I wanted on vendors as easily as I do here so I just prefer to chat on here.

Thank you for your post! i thought it was just me! this is my first time posting here and i am so done with the knot. those posts offended me and i wasn't even the poster! those girls are constantly calling others bridezillas or worse. and the moderators take their friend's side. it's like a terrible high school clique and i'm glad to get away from their negativity.

Oh my gah! I have only been on the Knot website a couple of times and never on the forums, but now I am glad I stayed away! What a bunch of b*****s. Reading the one you posted from the poor girl with the tote bag broke my heart. Why would anyone be so mean to another bride with a simple (not to mention SWEET) question. I am glad I came here instead!

OMG. THOSE PPL ARE HARSH. IM SO GLAD TO BE ON WW. I HEARD ALOT ABOUT THEKNOT AND THOUGHT ABOUT CHECKING IT OUT BUT AFTER THIS POST AND WHAT I READ I WOULD SAY THATS ENOUGH TO CHANGE MY MIND. ONE THING IS GIVING PPL ADVICE BUT THE WAY THE SAY IT IS WHAT MATTERS, AND IF PPL SAY THATS NOTHING COMPARED TO THE OTHER THINGS THEY SAY I WOULD SAY WW IS THE BEST. IM GLAD TO HAVE FOUND MY WAY HERE.

You know what I think happens? Some brides (and grooms, and families, and bridal parties, and everyone in between) forget that they are not the first or last person in history to get married! Sometimes, when blogging, people take things so seriously because they can invision only THEIR way...so when you ask for an opinion, they tend to throw out the negative unless they already agree with you. Don't worry, trust your gut! When you have an idea, GO FOR IT! Just know that there's lots of different people out there and as long as you're not hurting anyone...BE WHO YOU ARE PROUDLY. But maybe get a little tougher against the haters...hehe.

As for the tote bag. I love this idea. And no, they don't NEEEED it...but who really needs any of this wedding stuff?!?! Isn't everything we do to some degree "extra". I mean all we NEED to get married is a license and a few "I Do's". I've been a bridesmaid 6 times, and no one thought of me needing some goodies! Follow your heart! Have fun!

The Knot is not completely terrible. On the National boards they tend to be a little rude. Local boards are generally pretty nice. I am currently a bride to be.. I used to be a Moderator for The Knot but decided to give it up ... partly because I started a wedding related business, but also due to the other Moderators and how they were behaving with the girls on the national boards. Its not right and The Knot will not due anything to correct it because they are not allowed to "censor" brides.