I know there are a ton. This is my current feeling perfectly though. Due date was yesterday. I've heard from about 1/3 of the guests. I'm giving it to the end of the week to get any that were mailed "late". Then Monday, I'm starting down the list. I'm a bit saddened by some of the declines because I considered them good family friends, all of the family declined (mom, kids, grandma, etc). Oh well, they don't think highly enough of me to come so I'm glad they declined. Since I put postage, I think I'm going to word it like "Hey, I just wanted to make sure you received the invite for our upcoming wedding. The RSVP date has passed so please put your pre-stamped envelope/RSVP in the mail this week so we can get a correct count for our vendors." Crappy? Perhaps..but so is not responding to an invite. I'm like 30 days out at this point and just need to know how many are coming. Only two of the like 30 have RSVPed for my bridal shower this weekend. Sigh.