rsvp Dissapointment

I feel you, We were expecting 150, However people who we thought would definitely come have RSVP no. It's disappointing. But on the bright side, your marrying your one true, love and that is the most important thing❤❤

View Quoted Comment Ooo hadn’t thought of that!

A lot of people have commitment issues nowadays and bails - same thing at my birthday party. I think it's a millennial thing. I learned to not trust people because of this.

View Quoted Comment People not replying and having to hunt them down was mind boggling to me. Guys. It’s pre stamped or log online and say yes or no. Rude.

Girlfriend Rejoice! You are marrying the man you love, celebrating it with friends and family, and you should be saving money since your guest count is lower. Sounds like a win, win, win!

Enjoy your special day.

DON'T GET UPSET!!! Just to let you know the 130 may not come either or some of them will bring someone that you may or may not know as well ( I hope not but it happens); just know that you 2 are both loved and you are going to have a great time!

I was in my feelings about mine but I did my wedding backwards; if everything goes well I will put an update because a lot people on WW had something to say about how I am doing mine. I think the way I did was the BEST thought though to refrain from that type of stress.

I understand how you are feeling as I am nervous this will be my outcome as well! I want to enjoy my day and see many people, but do not want to feel like I wasn’t “good enough” for people to attend! Crossing fingers for you that everything works itself out and your uneasy feelings disappear!

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I understand, but I was pointing out that that's only true for you and your coworkers/fellow actor friends; for the rest of your 157-person guest list, including your family members and other friends, it's a Monday the week after a holiday weekend and probably a bit inconvenient, as well as difficult for some to get off. Nothing wrong with choosing the date, but this might be an unfortunate consequence.

My usual suggestion if your list includes many who are not your immediate family to aim for 50% of your guest list attending. I am only inviting 75 .. I expect 35... We sent Save the Dates and have 29 confirmed so far (I have rsvp's set up on our website to get preliminary numbers; there will be a formal rsvp sent with the invitation). Half haven't RSVP'd so I am thinking we might get 50. We wanted small, so small it is... I'd count at 50% for anyone still wondering what to expect.

You are I are in the same boat. My FH and I invited 165 people and sent save the dates in March. We estimated between 130-140 people would attend and it turns out we totaling at 119. I, too, feel shocked and sad that so many people declined. Especially when they say things like, "so bummed to miss this" and "sorry but we have another commitment that weekend." To make matters a little worse, all but 6 declines were from my side. This now means that at the ceremony my side will be 35 people, and FH will have more than double that on his side. That makes me nervous.

I totally get your disappointment. There are always some “no” RSVPs, and it seems here the more invited over 50 guests, there are a LOT more declines.

The perfect people who who will attend are meant to be there and you’ll feel so much love!!!

We invited about 160 and had around 80 people RSVP yes. I was a bit upset at first but it honestly turned out sooo perfectly. We had such a great group of people make it and all of our friends/family were mingling with each other. By the end of the night, pretty much every guest had talked to each other, which never happens at larger weddings. We had so many people come up to us after and tell us that they had such a great time and they were able to really get to know any friends/family that they didn’t know. In my opinion, 80 people is the perfect size for a wedding! I wouldn’t waste your time worrying about the people that can’t make it, just enjoy all those that can!

Rachel, I'm sorry about your guest response dilemma! And, yes, I'm experiencing the same issue. I didn't send out any save the date cards, but I did send out Christmas cards (same as I do every year) this past year with our wedding date suggesting friends and family start thinking about making travel plans if they wanted to attend. For the most part, I've been planning on about a hundred guests all along. I sent out a hundred invitations to friends and family, and because we are involved in our church, we gave an open invitation---with a "sign-up" guest list---(I wanted to invite our church friends, but didn't want to leave anyone out accidentally---hence the open invite!) So, I have over 250 people listed on my weddingwire account, but some of these are "guests" of people I invited who aren't coming with guests. Well, here it is just 11 days til we say "I DO!" and I've yet to hear from 56 people----most of whom are good friends and family members. Wow! I'm so surprised and disappointed too! I've heard that you can usually count on about a third of the guests you invite. I don't know where I heard that and I'm not sure if that's true for weddings or for parties in general, but I'm starting to believe that figure. Hmmm! It kind of reminds me of the parable in the Bible where the King invites guests to attend his wedding and the original invitees come up with excuses not to attend. So the King's servants go out into the streets and invite others. Well, what I figure is "them that wants to be there is gonna be there!" So no matter who attends our wedding, I hope and pray they'll be blessed! I hope your wedding is a blessing, too, Rachel!

Ours was about the same invited 150 we will have 78.

Hey girl ,
keep you chin up as long as the most important people are there who cares. I wanted a small wedding like20 people he wanted a big wedding we invited 150 we got 85 yes response. My fathers whole family said no with out reason. Maybe your caterer can give you a break. Ours did.

Yes it’s disappointing but at the end of the day youllarry your love and who cares who’s there.

Our date is 9/28/19 and our save the dates went out in late June/early July. We sent an information card with the invitation to get you to our cute wedding website to RSVP - thought that would be easier for everyone...…. apparently not!! We still had to chase down about 40% of the invitees as to whether they were coming or not. If you're not coming, that's totally OK - but, you still need to RSVP to that fact. I personally think it's rude not to RSVP!!

I am so terribly sorry. Its going to be such a beautiful and special day. Do not let this ruin your big day! Keep your chin up, the most important people will be there and the ones that aren't are missing out on something special. They will have to live with that in their own heads. Best of luck to you and i wish you a perfect day!

We got less RSVPs than I imagined. I know there are a few people who will show up without having sent it in. And probably a few no show RSVPs. I just remind myself this is my fiance and my special day, not theirs. It's OK for them to prioritize another event or even just time to rest on their time off above my occasion 😊 I'll enjoy time with the people who do come.

I think I lucked out with my venue. I had to give a guess (100 people) but my deposit and total estimated cost are based off my 50 guest minimum guarantee.

I know that must be a bit of a drag to know that quite a few from your guest list can't make it. However, that just means you'll be able to spend more time with the people that ARE there and not have to rush through to get to mingle with everyone. Try to focus on the positives and don't let other people that are not even coming to your wedding, effect how fabulous your day is for you and your FH. Good luck.