Rsvp dilemma: overhead at the gym

I'd personally prefer to RSVP over text because then I could do it immediately in 3 seconds rather than head to the post office, buy stamps, put the damn thing in the mail. Honestly, I can't remember the last thing I mailed - either taxes or yep, a wedding RSVP. But I'm in a minority vs. people who take great pleasure in the formality of keeping the United States Postal Service afloat.

ETA: Of course, there are always elderly relatives etc. who are not tech-savy (and have a lot of stamps lying around, probably forever stamps, 'cause stamp price fluctuations was an actual concern back in the day) and they should get a paper RSVP. But honestly, those women sound like they were just being judge-y and bitchy over nothing, which is the worst kind of wedding guest.

I agree. I was thinking that! It's so easy to just pop online and rsvp than having to remember to drop it off in a mailbox.

I wouldn't say that it's tacky, but I prefer paper RSVPs to texts or online.

It's really nice to have the online RSVP option! I chose to do paper invites because over half of my guest list is not exactly tech savvy and I didn't want any confusion. I had stamps on all the RSVP's so it hasn't been too bad!

I sent rsvp post cards and still only got RSVPs through text. Such a waste of money.

@Jenny-the RSVP card should come with an SASE. If not, that's crass on the couple's part. I prefer the paper card, it takes me a couple of weeks to get everything together to figure out the logistics of whether we can go to a wedding, so RSVPing right away isn't an option. I can pin the card to the board and remember to RSVP in a timely manner.

What is so taxing, so difficult, and so challenging about opening a wedding invitation, checking your calendar, checking a box, perhaps selecting two meals, putting the card back in the SASE, and walking yourself out to the mailbox, putting the small envelope inside the box, raising the flag, and forgetting about it? When did that become such a burden? Geez, cleaning the gutters, mowing the lawn, and loading the dishwasher take far more effort, but that gets done. You are an honored invitee at a very expensive event. Is it really so overwhelming to spend ten minutes responding to a formal invitation in the manner prescribed? Sorry, don't get it, and never will.

I'm with the ladies at the gym. In fact, an email invite would make me wonder what else about the wedding was streamlined. A wedding invitation -- something that announces a life changing, six hour, fully hosted affair -- is something you intend to send out once in your life -- maybe twice. We live in an age where it is now considered normal to send out printed STDs (unnecessary) and printed rehearsal dinner invitations (completely unnecessary), but here we are, questioning the taxing nature of printed wedding invitations and printed RSVPs delivered via the mail.

It's a huge event, the most expensive per person event you will ever host, so I just don't understand spending tens of thousands and then skimping on the intro to the event -- the printed invitations. I'll never change my mind, regardless of where technology takes us. A printed invitation should be sent through the mail, and the RSVP should have a SASE attached to it. It's a formal affair, not an email event.

I wanted all my RSPVs in the same place. So they are all online. People that are not computer savvy have call or text and I'm doing it for them

I don't think it's tacky but I don't like to text or rsvp online. If there is an option I always mail one back. Our mailbox is right outside the front door. Doesn't get easier than that. Lol! You could also drop it in the outgoing mail at work. I just don't trust technology with something so important.

I'm with @Rachel and @Jessie. @Jenny must have some rude friends for not already stamping the envelopes! I will forever prefer paper RSVPs over digital.

We definitely have received multiple wedding invitations with RSVPs without a SASE. Which I agree you should not do. But nevertheless, it happens and is a pain in the ass. Especially one couple who we know well and TOLD on multiple occasions that we were going - still insisted we mail the RSVP to their parents (yep, and there was no stamp attached!) who were hosting. It's like, really, you can't just text your mom? I have to go to the post office to formally respond to a wedding you know we're attending?

Actually, I don't even know where to drop off my mail at my building... I always have to go down the street to a box (if I have the good fortune to have stamps). I do always know where my phone is, which also conveniently contains my calendar.

Stamps are available LITERALLY anywhere you shop. Buy some to keep on hand.

You can drop mail in any mail box (home, street, your work, a random person's house) to mail it.

Rachel nailed it. Everything she said.

I prefer paper rsvps. I just like the idea of them. Plus it scares me that things will glitch and will tell me the wrong thing online.

@Jenny- That's me! HaHa! I expect everyone to mail me their rsvp including wedding party and parents. We addressed and stamped their rsvp envelope and took the time and effort to mail out formal invitations. The least everyone can do is learn how to mail something.

I did online RSVPs only because I did not have a permanent address until this week. I just finished college so I had my college apartment, my parent's house, my fiancé's dad's house and we just bought a house together so it made no sense to do paper RSVPs.

IMO it doesn't make sense to waste money on postage for RSVP cards when I can get responses faster and more accurately online. If anyone finds that tacky, they are free to hand write a note with their response and mail it to me, as dictated by old etiquette.

Not everyone is tech savvy so only having online RSVP's is a bit tacky. Nothing wrong with having it in addition to the RSVP card though. Us older folks also still regard weddings as a formal event and expect the usual traditions that we are used to. I can also add that the only time I had to respond online only, the website didn't work properly and it was quite frustrating.

SASE pleeeez. This is a wedding not a barbeque.

I'm sending out paper invitations and details cards but having people RSVP online. I personally feel it's an unnecessary cost in today's day and age and not tacky.