rsvp Date’s too late - How should i handle this?

Not really sure why:

A) You're being evasive about the reason why, which makes me personally feel like the mistake is something that you don't want to cop to.

B) You need RSVPs now.

C) You have sent out invitations already for a wedding that won't happen for another year and three months...

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Thanks for sharing! If the venue needs the RSVPs 30 days before your date, when do you plan to reach out to guests who haven't RSVP'd?

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Our final payment/headcount is due next Thursday. So I am going to start reaching out this weekend actually. There are some close family members who I know are coming who just keep forgetting to put their RSVP in the mail. So I'm going to start with the people who I am super unsure about. Luckily I will only have to reach out to a few people!

Hey Charlie - not trying to criticize, but curious: did you send invites out already? It looks like your wedding is still a year and a few months away.

Anyway - I would definitely just call everyone on the guest list if you can. Or send everyone new insert cards with an "oops, sorry - the date was wrong. Here's the new reply by date and a new RSVP card".

View Quoted Comment When was your original rsvp date and current rsvp and how many guests do you have ?
It looks like your wedding is over a year out so I wouldn’t think people would be able to commit to saying they can go

Im confused, your wedding is over a year away so why are invites being sent out now?

You are going to have to contact each person unfortunately to ask them then.

How would you handle it at this point? We can’t get around the new due date. How would you recommend reaching out to people?

I would say you definitely have to call; I can't think of any other option. You don't want to send out completely separate cards -- some might not get there...it'd be a mess.

Would you request that they RSVP earlier?

Don't you have to do this? I mean, if you need your final numbers, you need them. You can't call and say the RSVP date is sooner but then say, "okay bye!" I suppose they'll have to let you know. If they can't let you know by the time you need to know, I suppose they'll just have to decline. Which totally sucks if you wanted them there, but that's life I guess?

Would you explain the circumstance? What would you share with them and what wouldn’t you share?

It really depends on the situation. Is your situation complex? Embarrassing? I don't really know how else to help if this isn't explained.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your recommendation! I appreciate answering all my questions. This is super helpful.

I'm so disappointed that it looks like we're never going to get answers to our questions.

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She seems to want to just bounce around them. Clearly, she doesn't want complete help.

View Quoted Comment I don’t it very rude to come to a public forum, get a lot of replies and only answer select ones. A lot of disconnected dots and if we had the whole picture we could give the right advice. I guess “disappointed” could be the word.

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Call them and ask

I appreciate everyone’s attention to this post and all of your inquiries! I wish I had more time to answer each of your questions and to respond to each of you. All of you have played a part in guiding me

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Almost every single one of us has asked you when exactly your wedding is. You have time to reply to others but not answer that one question.

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You realize that you could literally just lie and tell us your wedding date on here was just randomly chosen right?

That would be much less transparent than refusing to answer a very simple question because you clearly screwed up.

Good luck with your wedding, I guess. I'm sure it will be...interesting...

So is she getting married in June of next year or not??? LOL.... Who would send out invites over a year in advance?? My wedding is in October and I just sent on my STD in January. lol

EM - I think you are being harsh and downright rude. That really isn't necessary, even if she is being elusive. I repeatedly see people lashing out on here and I really don't understand why people find that necessary. This is supposed to be a happy and helpful place.

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Em's response is the exact reason why I've chosen not to answer many of the questions and have chosen to only share pertinent information. I have found that so many people come on wedding wire, desperately seeking advice, only to be bashed and insulted by other people on here. Even if I disclosed more information, I'm sure you would have responded the same way.

I have to ask, why do some people take this stuff so seriously? It's the internet, it's not personal.

Again, thank you for your time ladies, but I have to get back to work now.