Just looking to vent/wondering if anyone else has had a similar experience during their engagement. FH and I have had a rough patch for a few weeks now. Of course we've had these before (last one probably in January), and it's generally caused from a lot of stress causing our fuses to be shorter than usual.
FH got promoted recently to a job he's great at, but his hours are almost the complete opposite of mine. I work Mon-Fri 8-5 while he works Mon-Fri 3PM-1AM. Thankfully we have the weekends together, but during the week I'm asleep when he gets home and he's asleep when I leave.
With his schedule the way he is and being in upper management in a department that was very poorly managed up until now, he's a ball of stress during the week. With all the stress of not seeing each other, his job, and planning the wedding, the smallest things turn into arguments. It doesn't take us long to re-evaluate, apologize for being snippy, and calm down, but it's just a bummer that the little bit of time we do have together, we almost always have some little bickering match.
Last night, I asked him to wake me up when he got home because I just needed to see him. I got emotional when he hugged me and he had a rough night at work and he said "Are we okay?" to which I responded "of course we are". Then he said "I'll quit this job tomorrow and find something else if we're not okay. You are what's most important to me" to which I just balled my eyes out because man I love him lol. I know this is all only temporary and we'll get used to the new schedule and be back to normal with each other, just starting to feel down lately. Anyone have any similar experiences/advice?
