Rethinking my destination wedding...

I think a group of 30 is so romantic and intimate, it will really allow you for time with those who traveled all that way to be there. Don't be down, be happy.

I think 30 would be perfect! We are having a destination wedding as well and I'd be happy if we even get to 30 to be honest. You should be happy that you have that many people willing to fork over cash to go to your wedding out of the country. Enjoy your day and quit sweating the small stuff. That will be practice for married life.

I am having a DW and outside of the BP there will be a grand total of 2, (yes I said 2) guests. Don't be down, the ones paying to go to your wedding really wnat to be there and for those that can't be there (but would love to be) are still happy for you. No regrets!!!

I'd be perfectly happy with 30 people, I am infact having around that number for my wedding! I look forward to being able to actually interact with all of my guests. I'm also looking forward to not being in the poor house after the wedding as well lol!

You do have friends, but DW's are expensive and not everyone can pay for that or take the time off work. And since it's out of the country, they also need passports.

Less than 30 is a good number for a destination wedding, and is actually pretty impressive I think!

@Nancy--I'm not planning a destination wedding, nor have been to one, so I'm no expert but in my opinion, I'd say 30 out of 55 for a destination wedding is a good turnout. I don't know your family/friends so I can only go on what I would imagine if I were in your shoes and regardless if the dance floor looked bare with 30 of my people there that'd be good cause they'd need it with all the dancing they'd be doing.

It's a destination wedding so you automatically have them feeling the 'vacation-let loose' feeling. That, plus the excited and free-spirited nature people always have at weddings, it'll be a fantastic time. Everything will be perfect!

We will have about that many too. Most of our guests are family. We sent out 72 invites(about 140 people) and will only have about 30 guests total and we are only going to Hawaii. Don't forget that the holidays are right after our weddings(mine the week of) and most people choose to take their time off to spend with family. I have run into that several times. I know it is hard to swallow but you really are having a very good turnout for your special day. The number 30 seems small but 30 people in person is beautiful.

Thanks Jennifer G and all... I know you're right. I think these feelings were really more about a couple of specific folks who declined. I just have to realize there are ebbs and flows in all relationships, and not take it personally. Our wedding week will be filled with love and tons of fun with our 30 closest friends.

Oh! I agree with the Holiday thing too! We have a wedding to go to in Denver the weekend after Christmas. We weren't going to go because we wouldn't be able to take off all that work so close, and have other things later in the year (FH's sisters wedding, OUR wedding and honeymoon) and wanted to go to Christmas at his parents (also out of state). However, we were told the wedding was more important. But if nobody had said that, we were going to skip it because that is not only eating into FH's time off (I can take off as much as I want) but our pay as well. I can take off what I want, but if I don't work, I don't get paid.

We just had a destination wedding in Aruba last month and it was AMAZING! I wouldn't have changed a thing! We had 50 guests (I thought there would be 20 and so did my budget, lol) but it was so nice to be at the resort with all of our friends and family that joined us! As the bride, I felt like royalty because every time I would outside, guests would call out to me from their balcony. We stretched our wedding out for 3 days with dinners, 2 ceremonies and a booze cruise. Everyone said that it was the best wedding they've ever been to. We even recieve thank you notes in the mail after from guests thanking us for having them at our wedding!!

I also know that I took it personally when people declined, and as much as I wanted to be thankful for those who were coming..I was sad about the no's. Honestly, once we were in Aruba and celebrating, the people that declined never crossed my mind.

Enjoy your destination wedding! It will be perfect and your pictures will be beautiful!!

We had 50 people at our wedding it was amazing. I have been to a 30 something person wedding and I thought it was so intimate and fun.

I felt so special to have been invited

Oh and at that wedding- apparently I had such a good tme I started conga lines, started the crowd dancing soul train style. I had a blast and I don't even remember all this.

Your wedding will be amazing. 30 people is a lot to me. you'll really get the chance to enjoy EVERY single one of your guests.

I had a destination wedding over three days too and it was a blast. Just a weekend party with your closest friends and family. We just happened to get married at the end.