Removing yourself from a bridal party?

Absolutely! Honestly if one of my girls explained to me the situation I would totally understand. If the bride gets mad at you or whatever the case may be because her bridal party would now me uneven then I'd say she asked you for the wrong reason. Your her friend, not a puppet for her wedding, I would hope she will totally understand where you're coming from.

Of course you can. I'd just politely tell her because of your wedding being so close to hers you won't be able to be apart of hers. Even by doing it politely, her feelings will be hurt initially but I'm sure that she will realize that the friendship has drifted and it's best this way.

Just be polite. It's fine! Completely understandable.

Of course you need to back out. You are going to be far too busy to attend to her in her wedding week. She has plenty of time to ask someone new, so back out right away. The only thing that would make backing out rude is waiting until later, giving her less time to replan her party.

You can but definitely be polite and sensitive about it. My fiance was his best mans groomsman the week before our wedding and it definitely was a lot going on

If you physically cannot be there because you won't have PTO then it sounds like you have to back out. Like others have said just be sensitive and let her know you're disappointed, and if you'd known her date earlier you would have loved to make it work

Sure you can. I would do it as soon as possible and be sensitive to how she might react. If you will be busy with your own wedding she should understand. Good luck

Yes! Don't waste your time or hers. The sooner the better. Tread carefully with how you communicate the decision to her.. can be a really stressful time and have read so many stories here about friendships ending, drama and so on. Good luck

You can also mention that she asked you a loooong time ago before she had set a date so there was no way for you to know there would be this overlap.

This is why the recommended time for asking bridal parties is 9-12 months, or less, before a wedding. If asking 15 or 24 months in advance, there can be no reasonable expectation that a person knows what their circumstances will be, that far out. You are giving fair notice, early enough so she could choose another person if she wants, at the usual time for asking. Of course you regret it, but there is good reason why you feel you will have minimal time or energy it funds to dedicate to her wedding. Not a problem.