reminders for RSVPs?

I'd just reach out a couple of days after the RSVP date. A lot of people send it on the RSVP date and will come in snail mail a few days late. See what stragglers come in before reaching out.

You wait until the date passes.

Wait until a few days after the RSVP, then kindly reach out to them as things may have gotten lost in the mail and some people think RSVP by means drop it in the mailbox by. (This is also why you should give yourself a week or 2 between your RSVP date and your final count being sue.)

You can do both, but I would wait until it passes. But you will have to track them down.

If the dates has passed; call them;

“Oh, hello, _____(name___. How are you? I just wanted to follow up to see if you were attending my wedding, since the RSVP date already passed. We’d like you to be there, and we need to give the venue final counts.”

I waited to contact anyone until after the date had passed. I made my RSVP date a Friday and started reaching out the next Wednesday if I hadn't received any late ones in the mail.

No, you don't send a reminder before the due date. Wait a few days after (some people out there wait until the RSVP date to stick theirs in the mail, so if you just wait a few days, you'll have a few less guests to contact). When you reach out, just say you were wondering whether they were going to make it to the wedding and need to get a final head count to the caterer.

No, that would not be polite. You gave them a RSVP date for a reason, reaching out before that defeats the purpose of the RSVP date, and it could be seen as annoying. You should not reach out until the date has passed.

Definitely wait until after the RSVP date has passed by 2-3 days. Then start following up with people individually/privately.

Our RSVP's are online so no snail mail to worry about. I did recently reach out to a few people because 1. I expected some to have RSVP'd already (family members who said they're coming) or 2. I edited their invitation to allow them to bring another person they had started dating. When I contacted people, one told me they hadn't received the invitation in the mail yet (sent a month ago) so I was really happy to know that, and I subsequently had a few immediately RSVP yes/no. I don't think it's necessary to hunt everyone down before though. I just said "I wanted to make sure you got the invite" or "looking forward to seeing you and person you're seeing at the wedding if you're able to make it". I didn't actually ask if they're going to make it or not- some were able to volunteer that info immediately but others had work things to sort out.

I waited until a week after the rsvp date then we started making calls

Let it be and follow up after the deadline.

My RSVP date is today but I haven't heard from about 15 families so next week sometime I will start calling them. I would give them a few days just to be sure. Even though the date is on there people still mail it on that date.

Definitely wait til the date passes. Otherwise it’s pushy, and the date becomes pointless.

Good info, I probably would have been asking this question next year!

Follow up after the deadline!

I would reach out after.

I started reaching out the day of.

Yep yep, start following up a few days later

I've set the date two weeks before my caterer needs the final count, to give us time to follow-up once the date has passed.

I set my date a month before the caterer needs them. Gives them two weeks for stragglers. (I know my family lol) and 2 weeks for me to reach people I haven't heard from before my deadline