Rehearsal dinner $

Personally, I don't think you should ask. You can however bring it up in conversation and maybe mention what it might cost and see if he offers then but otherwise, I don't think you should ask. The rehearsal dinner is usually paid for by the couple getting married. If you cannot afford to have it at the venue, you should have somewhere more in your price range.

There really is no polite way to do this. I would plan the rehearsal dinner on your own and if he offers to pay for it, or contribute in some way, thank him graciously and let him. It 100% doesn't matter what anyone else is paying for or what you think his financial situation is. You shouldn't ask him to contribute just because you feel like he should.

I agree with most of the PP, that it would be rude to ask if he hasn't already offered to help out.

However, here is what my experience was with our Rehearsal Dinner, maybe this will help you:

My FMIL is helping us out with some of the wedding costs (by giving us cash towards our wedding fund that we can use how we see fit). It's not a ton but every little bit helps. We're paying for most of the wedding ourselves. We started planning our RD knowing we would probably be paying for it ourselves. When we started nailing down our plan, my FH was telling my FMIL about where we were at in planning, that we were nailing down RD details and what the cost looked like it was coming to and next thing we knew she sent a check to cover the estimated expense.

So I guess my point is, it would be rude to ask, but mentioning it might help inspire him to offer to help in some way.

Since you are so fortunate to have family so willing and ready to help with your financial aspects of your wedding I think it would only be appropriate to host the rehearsal dinner yourself to thank them for giving you the wedding and honeymoon of your dreams from the kindness of your heart.

I think if he hasn't offered by now, it likely isn't on his mind. You can still ask him, but since it doesn't sound like you have paid for anything yet, the rehearsal dinner would be a great investment on your behalf to thank your family and bridal party.

I understand being young and homeowners. My husband and I bought our house at 22 but I still didn't see that as a reason not to invest my own money into my wedding. Again, it's awesome that your family took care of (from what it sounds like) everything. And since a rehearsal dinner is technically a thank you, its more appropriate being hosted by you anyhow. Good luck.

There is no polite way to ask someone for money. I do not think you should ask him for money. The majority of your wedding is being paid for by your family, I think you should pay for your rehearsal dinner on your own honestly.

Agreed. We weren't going to have one either since our ceremony will be small and short and our BP is so small, but we decided to do a wine and cheese RD at our house just to practice. The guest list is 10 so that's no issue.

You could say "hey we're planning the rehearsal dinner, please let us know if you can help out" and leave it at that. But honestly..... I'm a little shocked that you have so much that's being paid for already, and you're looking for someone to pay more. No one is obligated to offer you money. I agree with PP that you should assume you're paying for everything unless it's offered. We're paying for 95% of our wedding ourselves. Our families are broke and so are we. We had to take out a loan, which sucks, but we made that decision. I'd just assume that you're footing the bill. Don't hold anything against him or anyone else that doesn't pay/ offer.

Maybe he didn't offer because he knew how much everyone else was paying and figured it wasn't needed. I think it would be rude to ask but that's just my opinion

I'm 23 and we are paying for the wedding and buying a house by ourselves so yeah that still doesn't change anything. I wouldn't ask FFIL for money for the rehearsal, but since you think its fine, just outright ask him and don't tip toe around the topic.