Rehearsal Dinner Argument

I would say it depends on two things. The first being how late your actual rehearsal is. The second being if it is out of people’s way. If it was 45 minutes on the way home for me I would Have no problem. We are doing something at our own home after however it is on people’s way home. If it wasn’t we would go to a local pizza place.

View Quoted Comment Our rehearsal is at 3pm so it’ll be around 4pm! Our friends and family are coming from out of town because we relocated, so nothing will really be on the way back.

View Quoted Comment That’s not terrible. However, how far are people traveling to come to the rehearsal?

I think your friend is very generous and you should definitely take her up on it.

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Almost all of our people are coming from either Texas or Michigan and the wedding is in Florida, so it depends on where they choose to stay while they're here. Most of them are planning to rent cars while they are here and my FMIL has no problem with making the drive, but mine does.

Your mom should suck it up and make the 45 minute drive. You’re not asking too much. It’s a little inconvenient but if your mother wanted to remedy that she could make a contribution so you could have your dinner closer to her. As it stands you should accept your very generous friend’s gift to you.

It does not seem horrible. A bit far but doable.

View Quoted Comment I would say go for it. It’s free and if they stay close to the venue which most people do it would just be the 45 minutes

I dont think 45 minutes is bad at all!! If people have trouble driving that far, you could even have people drive together or carpool. I dont see a huge issue with it. I feel like if your mom isnt willing to foot the bill or put money towards the rehearsal then she has no say. $1,500 is a crazy amount to spend, and if a friend is willing to host and pay for it, i definitely wouldnt pass up that opportunity

I think you should definitely take your friend up on the offer because that is extremely sweet of her ! Your mom can carpool with you or someone else. Not a big deal! Don’t let it get to you

Honestly, weddings cost so much already! You have such a generous friend and I think if it were me I’d take her up on the offer. I don’t think 45 min is that far. I love the idea of having the rehearsal dinner at someone’s house. It is probably going to be super fun and relaxed, people can sit outside if it is nice out etc

Take your friend up on her offer. That is very kind of her to do and I do not think 45 minutes it that bad of a drive for a free meal and celebration. If your mother has an issue with it, she can forego the dinner. Rehearsal dinners aren’t mandatory so if she really wants to make that big of a deal about it, just tell her not to come.

That is really nice of your friend and 45 mins isn’t that bad. If your mother doesn’t want to come then that’s ok. Remember....it’s YOUR day and you should do what makes YOU and your FH happy.

45 minutes is fine - your mom is overreacting. Accept your friend's generous offer! That's very kind of your friend

45 minutes is nothing. I drove 57 minutes to work last year. This year it's 35 but definitely take her up on the 45 minutes. Your mom can deal with it or else she can pay. If she is adamant, I would explain the situation. It was so sweet of her to offer!

Def do the free rehearsal dinner! That’s an amazing wedding gift. Very selfish of your mother not to drive 45 min. She can also Uber or carpool.

Oh wow! That’s such a gracious offer of your friend. Yes! I think you should totally take up her offer. 45 minutes is not a bad drive at all.

That was very sweet of your friend and I,wouldn't,turn down her gift. Especially since that would probably hurt her feelings. 45 minutes isn't that far. My venue is an hour away from where we live and we have to drive there for the rehearsal and the next day for the wedding. Maybe your mom could ride with someone?

That sounds very generous of your friend and it sounds like you should take her up on it. Those involved in the wedding should be okay with the drive. Best of luck and peace and blessings for your special day!

I live in Rhode Island and 45 minutes is nothing! It takes me 20-25 minutes to get to Boston and 45 minutes to state beaches in Narragansett Newport Jamestown etc.. have you thought about her driving to your house and maybe she ride with you?