"Regrets Only" for a Bridal Shower

Wait what? I don't get it ... they only want you to RSVP if you CAN'T make it? Or they don't want you to RSVP at all? I'm confused as to what "Regrets only" means...

Regrets Only means they will assume you are coming unless you let them know you are not.

It means they'll assume you are coming unless they get a "no" RSVP. I recently went to a graduation party like this, but have never heard of it for wedding stuff.

I did regrets only for my friends bridal shower. I was the MOH. It is 100 times easier to assume everyone is coming and only get phone calls/ emails from people that are not coming instead of all 75 people on the list. We only had about 5-8 people that never showed and didn't tell me they weren't coming.

I love regrets only! I don't have to do anything unless I'm not going, its great.

Every shower I have ever attended has said "Regrets Only" - I like it. You just need to show up and if you aren't gonna make it, just let someone know by a certain date. It's really easy - if you invite 50 and no one tells you they aren't coming, you plan for 50.

ETA - Melissa gets it!

What @Lauren said.

Ooh okay. Ya I guess for a shower (if it is a more casual affair) this kind of RSVP might make sense. I've never seen it before though. I dunno it would make me nervous to plan this way but whatever works for people.

I do regrets only for our daughters birthday parties. I love it. I don't think I want to do it for the wedding though.

My MOH just threw a shower for her sister, their invites were regrets only and they wound up calling everyone anyway because they weren't sure who was coming. She said she'd never do regrets only again.

I think it's a good idea. Usually the girls bring more than enough food for everyone and actual numbers are not as important compared to a wedding because people kind of just mingle. Wedding RSVPs often have food orders, dietary concerns, and caterers need know exact numbers and seating charts! Much more challenging without knowing exactly WHO is coming.

Never heard of this before but I like it. I think it works for a shower but not an actual wedding.

Yeah, most showers I attend are "regrets only" RSVPs. Way easier on the hosts, plus food counts don't need to be as firm generally anyway.

My shower invite was regrets only too. Unless you are having a catered event, plan for everyone to be there unless you hear otherwise. Youshould onlybe inviting people that are important to you ........not every single person you know. Best friends, immediate family, bridal party. You know they'll be there if they can be.

@MrsCheapskate - I guess that's why it threw me a little! I'm not in the bridal party, family, or a super close friend. I was not invited to the bachelorette and was (pleasantly) surprised to be invited to the shower, but I also do live in town!

I guess I just don't have any faith in my friends to check their mail unless they know they are expecting something important!

Regrets Only means they will assume you are coming unless you state otherwise. Probably because showers aren't as formal or require minimums as you stated.

They will still know how many people are coming, in theory. You are a yes unless you say you are a no.