Registry/Shower @ 30 years old

My FSIL got married last year and she's 38 and has been living with her now husband for about three years prior. I don't think she had a registry, so we all got her whatever we thought she'd like. We all had a great time though!

I would say if it truly feels silly you can skip it, but if people are offering to throw you one, let them do something nice for you.

I'm 37 and will be 38 when we wed. I don't feel weird at all. The stuff on the registry are mostly upgrades or stuff I don't have but been coveting (I love to cook and will always be buying new/upgrade household items). Also, we will be having a couple's wedding shower, so more like a cocktail party which I'm totally looking forward to.

I'm 50 and had a nice shower..low key and they threw me a small bachelorette party!! Embrace it they said...and it was so nice!

I registered for stuff because I've learned in recent years that people WANT to give you stuff. A lot of people get particular meaning out of being able to provide something you and your spouse will use, hopefully forever, in your home. A lot of people also still have and use gifts from their wedding 25+ years later and still think fondly about the people who gave the gift and their wedding day when they use the gift. So people give gifts as a way of bonding/connecting/supporting your life together, and love having the opportunkty to do so. I didn't know that 5 years ago, but I have a different perspective now that I've been to "older" people's weddings and heard more perspectives (I'll be 33 this weekend).

Anyone and everyone should feel free to get us anything or nothing, as far as I'm concerned. I didn't really register for me (although I did only register for things we want and will use), I registered so that those who get value from giving gifts will be able to give us something we will love, if they choose.

I don't think it matters how old you are or how established you are. I'm 39 and getting married for the second time. But it's cause for great celebration and I am definitely having a shower. FH is the love of my life and we have a whole new set of friends and new family to surround us. So I say go for it

I feel like 30 is the average age to get married these days. You shouldn't feel guilty about getting a shower like us 20 something folk.

Thanks for all of the input. I feel as if some people are taking my post the wrong way. I stated that I would not think twice about anyone else, the post was about myself and my feelings-- not my feelings about you. Thanks for the input-- bring on the mimosas!

I'm 31 and have lived at home my whole life so we register for the basics my FH is 40 and has his parents hand me downs.

I don't feel weird about it at all. I am 33 and will be 34 when I get married. This is the both of our first marriages. I will do a registry and have a small shower. I think the average age to get married is somewhere around 30 and most people are waiting until their older. I don't think age has anything to do with whether or not you should have a shower or registry.

I agree with PP's. It's not an age thing. If you don't want a shower, you can decline. you could also host a luncheon and refrain from registering for gifts. You could also register for items related to a hobby you and FH enjoy instead of housewares. You could ask for camping gear or something.

I have shared a house with my Mom for years, so all the stuff in it is hers basically. My fiance and I do not live together and most of the stuff he has is his room mates because he lived there first. So we have almost nothing for our new home together. I am 38. I don't mind registering for gifts because all of our family and friends want to get us what we need to start our new life together after our 10 year long distance relationship.

I feel the same way. I'm not 30 yet, but I'm 28 and have been living with my husband for several years. I felt stupid having a shower. I requested to not have one lol.

30 is not old

Actually in 2016 in the US, the average age of a bride was 30 and the average age of a groom was 32!

Don't worry about it. I'm about your age and have never been married before and live on my own and I still had a shower with typical registry things. A lot of my kitchen is hand-me-downs and my sheets and towels are from college or just after it. I just didn't register for new stuff I have gotten in the past several years (coffee pot, crock pot, vacuum, blender, etc). But I did register for all new pots and pans and bakeware and bathroom stuff. Don't worry about it. People won't think twice about it.

I'm 34 and have no issues with registering or having a shower.

Age has nothing to do with it. It's your time to enjoy being a bride!

I'll be 35 and FH will be 36 when we marry next year. I, too, find it weird to create a registry; I purchased my house 4 years ago, FH moved in in November, and we've been on our own for years.

We did create a registry because my boss suggested it. She said that people attending the wedding may want to purchase physical gifts for us rather than give money. She suggested creating a registry of anything we want/need. It's tough because everything we want or need, we buy. We started thinking outside of the box about what we could ask for and came up with a few good ideas: picture collage frames, blow up air mattress, ice cream maker, panini press, and gift cards.

Not weird at all!

I'm 45 and have been married before, but my fh has not, so he wanted to go all traditional. So we registered for a few items, for example upgrading pots and pans, as well as a few items we didn't have. His mother and sister in law are planning a shower for me, so I think it's totally fine to register and have a shower.

I'm 31 and actually kind of offended by this. Who cares at what age I get married? Why do I not get to enjoy it just because I met FH when I was in law school as opposed to college? If you don't want one, don't have it. Age has NOTHING to do with it.