Registry/Shower @ 30 years old

Totally totally fine! Feeling weird about it is in your head. I had mine at 29 and no one batted an eye. It was a first marriage for us both and even tho we are a little older there was tons of stuff we wanted/needed for the house

The bottom line: there is nothing wrong with celebrating the fact that you found the love of your love, at ANY age!

(For the record, I didn't particularly want any pre-wedding events, but thankfully, my aunt asked my mom for the thumb's up to host a shower instead of me. Well, I just had my shower—two weeks after my 33rd birthday—and honestly, it was so incredible, I'd hate for anyone else to skip having one because of a number!!)

EDIT: My FH and I have been living together for 3-4 years. I still don't think that makes a lick of difference.

I'm 31 and didn't think anything of having a shower! We've both lived on our own and "had" everything we wanted but we registered for new, plush towels, nicer silverware that was both of our tastes, a beautiful china set, and some fun kitchen stuff (popcorn popper, fondue set, etc.) I don't think there's anything wrong at all with having a shower at 30!

I don't see what age has to do with any of this...... If someone offers you a shower, have a shower. It doesn't matter if you're 23 or 33.

I don't find it weird to go to a shower for a bride. I assume you are thinking 30 is old. HaHa!! That's just funny. I'm 38 and just got married for the first time. I did feel a little weird receiving gifts but I would have felt the same way at 22. I like to take care of myself and my home. Don't need anything from anyone and haven't for a really long time. That being said, people like showers and want to buy gifts for occasions like weddings. If you are really bothered by it then have a recipe shower. I was registered but ended up getting a lot of wine and money for my shower. I think people just knew I'd prefer that over anything on my registry.

Your age has nothing to do with it. Get a registry if you want to get stuff you need/want.

Thanks for the input! I am grateful for the women in my family wanting to celebrate me and start our marriage off with the goodies we'd love to have. My bridesmaids are throwing a shower for me in November and I am thankful for them and that they want to do this for me.

Thanks ladies!

I'm 34, I'll be 35 by the time my shower comes around. The majority of my friends got married after 30 and had showers. 30 is the new 20. You don't have to do anything big or elaborate, but just because you weren't in your 20's when you met the love of your life, doesn't mean you don't deserve all the fun bridal activities that come with a wedding.

I don't think age really makes a difference. I am almost 30, FH is 32 ... I had both a shower and a bachelorette party.

For our registries, we registered for upgrades. There are always things that you could update - towels, sheets, pillows, etc. We have lived on our own for a fairly long time and together for a couple of years but there were still household items that we didn't have and would use - a upgraded vacuum (Dyson), a knife block, and food saver.

Geez, I'm 40 and will be 41 when I get married. Didn't realize I was already past my expiration date for wedding stuff.

I don't think age makes a difference either; I was 31 when I got married; we registered and had a small shower.

I don't think age makes a difference either; I was 31 when I got married; we registered and had a small shower.

I'm not sure what age has to do with it. I politely declined three bridal showers because I didn't want one/see the point of one. We had a small registry with upgrades (love my new wine glasses) and things we would never buy for ourselves. If you want a bridal shower, have one. If not, decline. ETA - I'm 37 and my husband is 33.

Age doesn't really matter. Plus if you don't want traditional registry gifts, there are other types of showers, like recipe showers or stock the bar showers. That would allow you to get together with some of your nearest and dearest for a shower without getting items you have no desire for (though some people will inevitably get you some monogrammed gear or kitchen stuff).

I'm 30 also but out didn't feel weird to me at all. I'm excited to have a day where I can spend quality time with friends and family.

I'm 31 and since other people are saying "it's my first marriage" I will say this is not my FH's first marriage. But FMIL's friends were invited to the shower, and happily gave me very expensive gifts. I'm assuming they came to his first wife's shower too. I didn't feel weird about it.

I'm 28 and a shower was hosted for me I have my own home and FH had his as well. We had many things that were mismatched or pots & pans we got from parents. I have pink towels & his are yucky. We registered in order to have new, matching things that are "ours" not "his or mine." I think it is perfectly acceptable to register. I attended a wedding this weekend with a 32 year old bride & purchased a gift off their registry

I felt a little strange about mine too because we have lived together a couple years. We had a small registry of mostly upgrades or fun stuff. I think everyone was just excited since I am the last of the adults in the family to get married. People who love you want to do that for you. My mom insited on throwing mine so I didn't want to rob her of it! I was so touched.

I'm 30, never been married and my bridesmaids are throwing me a shower. I've never thought twice about it. I mean it's finally our time so I'm all for it!

My sister got married at 40 (her second marriage) and also had everything. She hates showers, so just the bridal party got together, along with groom and groomsmen, parents and we went out for dinner and drinks. We all put in some cash in a card box (also a gift for the wedding) and gave them a "jack & jill" poster with a bunch of photos of them like a montage with funny sayings about them and marriage in general, along with cartoon characters like Mickey & Minnie as bride and groom. They were thrilled and happy and didn't go through any of that traditional nonsense. They had a nice, elegant expensive wedding, but with just about 50 guests. It was fabulous but not overboard, very stylish and they had a great honeymoon. I don't think age plays into this, but I think it's up to the couple to plan what they want after they reach a certain age. I'm 29 and my boo is 35. We planned our own "jack & jill" engagement party/shower in one and it was perfect - with just our closest BFFs and immediate family. We're having a larger wedding that is elegant with everyone and extended friends, co-workers etc. I really think you should just do what feels right to you.