Registry/Shower @ 30 years old

I wouldn't think anything of it, so many people are getting married late twenties, thirties, or later these days. If it makes you uncomfortable, don't feel pressured to accept someone's offer to throw you a shower, but I wouldn't feel weird about it because your 30.

Now would be the time for upgrades if you want them. I don't think age plays into it. If you want a shower, have one, if not, skip it.

Ill be 29 when we get hitched and I plan on it. We live together but we started with hand me downs and garage sale finds. I'll be upgrading some things but not everything.

I'm with you Cara. I am 36 and have lived with him for over 3 years. It feels tacky to have a shower and register for things we already own.

I didn't have a shower because I felt weird about it and I don't have older female relatives or family friends. That being said, if I were invited to one I wouldn't think anything of it. If someone is offering it to you and you want one then go for it. I would a registry just because it is expected for showers and some people enjoy buying off of it.

Honestly, I am not sure what age has to do with anything. I am going to be 34 by the time my wedding comes in February and I am registering just like everyone else and deserve to just as much, too. 24 years or 64 years .. everyone deserves a fucking toaster and some monogrammed towels!!

I was 36 when we got married and shared your feelings, but we ended up doing a small registry and a co-ed shower which was wine-themed (our game was a wine-tasting quiz which was super fun) so the hosts gave folks the option to give us a bottle of wine instead of something off the registry as well (they checked with H and i to make sure we were cool with that option). we registered for some splurgey kitchen stuff and nice towels and sheets, a few new things and a few upgrades. it's not unusual in my friend and family group for people to be getting married later, so i guess it depends on your community, but honestly, at the end of the day, people really want to wish you well no matter how old you are.

I'm 40 and had a shower - first marriage for the both of us. So what?

Considering that 30 is around the average age of couples for their first marriage, I don't think it's strange at all. But I don't think age matters much anyways.

I felt weird, and probably wouldn't have bothered with a shower if everyone else weren't so excited for me to have one. Same goes for a registry (I think my mother had people asking her about my registry less than a month after we got engaged). But, then again, I hate being the center of attention and *really* hate asking people for anything (and I mean anything: gifts, help, all of it), so maybe I would have felt weird at any age. People are more excited than I ever thought they would be, which is nice.

On the flipside, I've gone to multiple showers for a 30-something bride and had absolutely no issue with it. I tried to keep that in mind when I'd feel awkward. People are getting married older these days, so I guess it's not really that "weird".

If it's your first wedding, age has nothing to do with it. 30 myself and had the best shower thrown for me Saturday. I already live with him and have been for 3 years. Nothing wrong with getting upgrades!

I'm almost 40 and we have most of what we need. I am registered for a few things to make our stuff more cohesive and whatnot, and a few things I haven't sprung for myself. But, you know what? I have been doing all this stuff for my friends and relatives and coworkers for the past 15+ years. Not going to feel weird about it if I get a shower or anything.

I'm 27 and wouldn't bat an eye, if anything I would just be excited to go. Further, the average age of marriage has increased and many people have changed the order in which they move on in the matters of their lives. I know many who are buying houses before getting married, some even having kids first. Hell, if you were 62 and getting ready for a bachelorette I would be so down to party. Your age doesn't make you any less of a bride or any less deserving of a Kitchenaid appliance.

I'm 35, FH is 34 and we already own a house together. First marriage for both. My shower was 8/13.

We chose only to register for things we really wanted (Matching plates! A DYSON! Light fixtures!) and it has really worked out so far. At the end of the day, people want to celebrate with you. They don't care how old you are.

I don't think age has anything to do with it to be honest.

I was 30 then we had my shower and didn't give it second thought. People want to celebrate with you, and for some people, that means giving you gifts. Registering and having a shower doesn't require them to give you a gift, but it does give them guidance and another celebration if they do choose!

Not sure why age should matter - if this is your first wedding, why not? you don't have to have a shower, we aren't as of now that i know of and we are fine with that.

None of my friends got married until they were over 30, they all had showers. Wow.

ETA: They also had bachelorettes. The only reason I'm not having a shower is because I'm not having a larger wedding.

I decided not to have a bridal shower not because of age but because we have lived together for two years. We have all the things we need in our home now. I do not need to request additional kitchen stuff. I have all the appliance, gadgets, and silverware I need. I feel like anything else will go unused. Plus, we live in an apartment with the plan to eventually purchasing a house. We do not have the space for extra items, and I am not sure what we will require when we do eventually move to our first home.

I don't think you should feel weird at all! I just turned 30 and was 29 when I had my shower, and it was one of the absolute best days ever. Don't rob yourself of all the wonderful experiences that go along with being a bride because of a silly number! And registries are totally subjective. My fiance and I just bought a house and registered for basically new everything. If you don't need all new stuff, then just register for upgrades or more specific things you would like, for example, luggage, camping gear, bbq/grill equipment, tools, etc. 30 is the new 25!

I will be 30 close to 31 by the time we get married. FH will be 36. Our moms have already said they want to throw us a shower when the time comes. Which we are extremely grateful for. We are in the beginning staves of launching our careers and we will definitely need upgrades to a lot of our household items by the time the wedding rolls around. I don't think age has anything to do with it. If you want to register and someone throws a shower for you great! If you feel like you don't need much, just have a small registry or none at all. So many people are getting married later in life that age is literally a non issue with this. My cousin recently got married, shes in her 30s with 4 kids between her and her husband and they had a small registry and upgraded things like their kitchen items, new bedding etc since all their stuff was mismatched between the 2 of them.

Also, you can register for just about anything now. Do one on amazon and you can register for home decor, electronics, gardening stuff, board games, whatever you want.