Registry or New Home Owner Fund

Many people in older generations find them tacky. I personally don't see the point in them. They charge a fee (whether it's to you or the giver depends on the site). Why pay a site just for them to play middle man? In my geographic area, monetary wedding gifts are the norm and showers are really the only time registry gifts are purchased. People put a check or cash in a card that they bring to your wedding and there is a card box that it's placed in. You get the cash without paying a website 2% or whatever it is for the privilege of transferring it to your account as a middle man.

I agree with your mom and PP, I'm not a fan of "fund" registries. If people want to give cash, they will without being told. I also don't see the purpose in paying a third party a fee for you to receive a gift.

Oh wow! I honestly didn't know that the guest would pay a third party, that changes a lot of things. Thanks guys!

It most likely said it in the directions and I skimmed through it lol

I think if you are going to get stuff for the house with the fund, then just register the items you want. I personally don’t want a need much of anything for our house.

If you want cash rather than physical gifts, then just don't have a registry. People will then give you cash or checks, without the fees (or tackiness) of a fund.

I think the fund is a good idea because it allows people to give whatever amount they can rather than a registry.

Having a fund is considered tacky and some guests might be rude about it depending on your crowd.. But I honestly don't understand why people get so angry about it when people have a registry and a fund option. Just don't do the one you don't like?

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I honestly like the idea of a Home fund better than the idea of a honeymoon fund. I have an easier time asking for money towards needed things rather than pleasure/fun. I've created both a registry on Amazon and a Home Fund. My FH & I will be living in the house my grandparents built in 1960. Between my dad & I we've done some upgrades and remodeling, but there's still other things my FH & I are definitely wanting to do for it to become our home.

Hi! Just posted this in another discussion:

I used theknot.com to make our wedding website that is honestly basically just a way for people to access our registry. We choose some things off amazon, and Knot.com also has a cash fund. We really don't need much stuff, everyone knows that we really just need to save up so we created a cashfund that says "Newlywed Fund: Building Our Future" and if you click on it it says "Guests may contribute to the Newlywed Fund, as the couple begins to save for big life events!" Everyone coming to the wedding knows we want to try to get pregnant ASAP so tacky or not our priority isn't physical stuff. People who know us are the people invited, and they would rather contribute to our future directly. The only reason we created the amazon registry was for our older family members who will want to use a registry. We have friends our age (mid and late 20s) getting married whose entire registry is just a honeymoon cash fund and my only thought was "heck ya, good for them!!"

(yes there is a transaction fee but there's a transaction fee when you pay a lot of things online. it's only 2%! When I pay a lot of different bills online there's a transaction fee, of course! That's why it's free to set up the fund, of course the site hosting it needs to make money or it wouldn't be a business and we wouldn't have anywhere to make our wedding websites for free!)