Registry for a vow renewal??

I think it would be ok, go for it

Abby, this is a really tough one. I think as long as your guests are aware that you never had a "big" wedding, it would be okay. But it also puts your family in a weird spot, because many of them have already given you marriage gifts. You have a lot of time before your renewal, I would write in to "miss manners" or someone similar to see if they can give you any advice on how to adress this.

As one married lady to another, and I'm not one for ettiquete, but that's one rule I will not break. I actually wouldn't suggest registering. If anyone asks, you can suggest a gift. We will have basket for guests to put cards in (also serving as a dropbox for our "guestbook" cards), but we aren't asking for gifts. Even though our original wedding was very small and we received no gifts, our renewal is a celebration of our love and commitment, not a recreation of the wedding we didn't have in order to do and get what we didn't get.

@Barbara L- I understand what you are saying, but most didn't give gifts! lol...just our parents, his grandparents and my grandma (my other grandparents don't approve of the marriage)...then we got a blender from my aunt and a blanket from my aunt. That's it....i'm torn because i don't want to seem rude or greedy, but we never really got gifts. Maybe it would be more appropriate to set up a fund for the honeymoon instead of a gift registry? Or just do nothing but leave a card box out at the renewal? URG

I wouldn't register either. To me that seems a bit like a gift grab. Guests can bring gifts but technically you are not entitled to one. If you do this people may not say anything to your face but they will definitely be talking behind your back. Just my $.02

We are doing the honeymoon fund for our renewal its okay cause you ddint get any thing the 1st time

I know it feels like you missed out

I actually think mrs. New beginnings has a good suggestion-- if people want to get a gift, they will ask what you need, or will just bring cards with money to the renewal. This will serve the same purpose as a honey fund, so I wouldn't bother with that.

FH and I went to a wedding last year where the couple hadn't registered, and no one assumed this meant they shouldn't get gifts-- most people brought cards with checks (they did have a card box at the reception).

As I stated, my suggestion is to not do a registry, but do have a card box and table just in case. It is unfortunate, but I don't think it's appropriate to ask for gifts. And trust me, we received literally NO GIFTS when we were married and actually had about 15-20 people. We got two cards (just cards, no money). But from all the ettiquette books and blogs I have read, and after deeper thought about it, our celebration is about our love, not gifts. If people choose to give, wonderful. Money is always welcome, lol. But if not,okay.

We are a great option to register for a honeymoon and you can tell your guests exactly what you explained in your question/discussion - on your registry. We have people say - 'we don't want traditional gifts, but if you feel inclined we would love help with our honeymoon' all the time and it is well received! https://gftgthr.com/

Either way is okay; go with etiquette and don't mention gifts, or explain to your guess and hope your friends understand and are generous. Ultimately the decision is yours to make; make it, stick by it, and be happy.