Registry cards in the invitations?

I don't think that's a bad thing- just make sure it's behind the invitation when you open the envelope. It's perfectly acceptable to list it on shower invitations though.

I still think registry cards belong with bridal shower invites and not in wedding invitations. I also believe in word of mouth. If both sets of parents know where you are registered, they can help spread the word on where you are registered when people talk to them.

I also automatically start searching the "normal" sites when I get an invitation to someone's wedding.... Bed, bath and beyond, target, kohl's, macy's.... I usually find the bride and grooms registry with out them telling me where it is.

They belong with the shower invites, never with the formal invitations to the wedding. Including them with the invitations implies that a gift is a requirement for attendance.

I will be including a little card with the invites because most of the guests do not have internet to view our website and if requires searching on their part, well it won't happen.

Bravo Hayley and Analy!! You are both right, etiquette dictates that the registry information is passed via famiily and close friends. You never want to imply to your guests that you expect a gift from them to attend your wedding.

I have actually recieved many invites over the years that have the registry info tucked behind the invitation. I always thought it was handy to have it all there for you.

When I sent out the save the date's, I included information of our wedding website and once we finish the registry, there will be information on there for the guest and when the bridal shower invitations go out, then I'm sending out information that way. My mom has sort of started just answering whenever anyone asks so that's been helpful.

I have to disagree with people that say don't include it. I get friends invites all the time that I am not close with their families and I have no idea where they are registered, its annoying hunting down info. I think if it is not attached to the formal invite and done in a tasteful manner (small card insert) it is helpful to have it in the same bunch of info. I am with you Katy. I know that my family doesn't use the internet and my mother hates people calling her asking a million questions when we can just simply provide the info. I have seen plenty of people show up to weddings without gifts and I don't see how including that info would all of a sudden change that lol. To each their own...but then I again I am not a big etiquette buff. Those roles have to be bent according to each unique situation...and I know my situation is unique. Your call marissa b.

I would never put it in the invitations. People who want to get you a gift will a) ask you, b) ask someone in your family, c) ask someone in your bridal party, or d) give cash. Or if you have a shower, registry information can go in the shower invitation. But putting it in the formal invitation makes it look like a gift is the price of admission.

I don't plan on putting registry info in our invites. Besides most people have been on our website and know where we are registered already anyway. I will be giving the registry cards to my BFF that will be hosting my bridal shower to put it in the invites for the shower. When we did the registry's they sent us the cards so we might as well use them.

NO!!! Don't do it. This is a surefire way to make guests feel uncomfortably required to purchase a gift, which although it is nice for everyone to give you something, the only gift you should ever really want when you invite someone is their presence at your nuptials. I advise brides to put their registry information in the Save The Date's, send out separate registry postcards, or send out emails. You can also create a Facebook page for your wedding, which takes much less time and then post it there.

They say it is a faux pas to put it in the invite, I would just set up a wedding website!

Mine will be in the shower invites, then its the website and word of mouth

I think the registry cards should only be included in the shower invite.

I had a close friend get married a little over a year ago and she got 5 toasters..YES FIVE because she relied on the "word of mouth" method. If you are having a very formal wedding then perhaps abstain from putting it in the invite. I'm printing my invites on Vistaprint and one side will have the "Mr and Mrs so and so invite you to the wedding of their daughter...blah blah blah" on one side. On the back side I'm having hotel block information, a map of the ceremony/reception site, as well as registry information at the bottom. Then an RSVP postcard. We are trying to use the least amount of paper possible not only to save on cost but also to be a little more green. I personally get very frustrated if there is no registry info in an invite -- especially if I didn't attend the shower to get the registry info in the first place. If you invite EVERYONE to your shower then you can probably keep the registry info just in the shower invite.

Thanks everyone! I appreciate everyone's response. I am having a little country wedding so I think putting it on the back of the invites sounds good. I do not want to end up with 5 toasters, lol! It won't be in big bold letters, small & simple. Christina D., you just answered some other questions for me like the hotel block and directions-Thank you! That sounds like a really good idea! Alot of people will be coming in from out of town and it is sort of a hassle to try and get registry info if someone did want to find out the registry info. :-)

I thought about this issue myself, but in the end I decided to put the registry info with the invitations. I registered both online and in store for those who are not internet savy (like grandma). I remember getting invited to a friends wedding years ago who I was not as close to as we use to be and she did not send any registry info. I was really lost as to what to get her. I did not have a shower or engagement party, and I did not send save the dates to everyone who I invited to the wedding. No, they don't have to get me a present, but if they want to, I'd rather give them some direction as appose to relying on family to tell them.

I am planning on sending our registry cards with the Save The Date magnets. It has two of our registries on the wedding website, which is listed on the Save The Date magnet as well, but two of the others are not....... I thought it was tacky to send with the invitation. Almost as if we are saying "hey! come to our wedding... And bring a gift!!"

Please, please do not put registry info in either shower invites or wedding invitations. It's bad etiquette. It's like saying, "hey, come to my shower (or wedding) and bring me a gift." 99% of the people coming to a shower realize that a gift is appropriate and they will ask the host where you are registered. Putting them in wedding invites are a no-no too. It looks more like you want a gift from them than their presence at your wedding.

I know you said you don't want to put together a wedding website, but I think if you put together a very basic one with ceremony, reception, and registry info you'd be better off. You can put a card in your wedding invite with your website on it. That is okay to do. But please don't put a registry card in there and don't put it on your invitation.

Every person's situation is unique. My family and my fiancee's families are two completely different kinds of people. One family is internet savvy and the other is not. So with us, I think that sending out registry information in one way or another is not tacky or bad etiquette at all. Do it however you wish Marissa B. In the end it is your decision. :-)