Refuse to cancel and so Frustrated!

Hi we all feel your pain, my brother was scheduled to get married May 9th and we are scheduled July 3rd. Both in NY even though we live in NC and so does his fiance. We literally have guest coming from all over the world. We decided to get married on July 3rd regardless (justice of the peace, court house whatever.) To keep our wedding date. Then if we have to we will reschedule the actual wedding and reception for a later date and time.

You can still be married and just delay the festivities. Good luck to us all.

I feel you. We're in a similar situation for April 25. We've been waiting for this for 35 years. Our date is special and important to us, so we're keeping it, but we're now talking about postponing the social part of it.


25 people say they're still coming. Most of the people we know feel this isn't any different than H1N1. (Some say it isn't even as bad as that was.) Some are out of state. If the Government continues to escalate restrictions, this could go down to the guaranteed 10.
Our new state law says we don't NEED an officiant of any kind, just our notarized signatures. (I guess that kind of makes the notary the officiant.). Good thing because our planned officiant (a friend) canceled this morning because of health concerns.
So our options right now are ... 1) Just us now with the notary and 2 of the kids and wedding later with reception. (Who knows when "later" will be?)2) wedding now with the 25/10 and then reception "later". (Would anyone come since the deed is already done?). This option has other options to consider, such as live streaming or "drive-thru".3) continue with wedding and reception with the 25/10 as currently planned. This option has the most uncertainty and last minute decisions/work. How many should I feed and house?
Money is not a big consideration for us, fortunately. I'm just doing a sandwich bar and haven't bought the food yet, so no money to lose there. Also have not bought any refreshments yet. Have not ordered a cake. Have paid $100 deposit on the state park venue, which I think is fully refundable for 2 more weeks. We would kind of lose out on the invitations ($100) and favors ($130) that have the date on them. (Anyone need a fan or a cup?)
Our honeymoon has already been canceled because Jamaica shut down. We're supposed to get a full refund from Sandals, but I haven't seen it yet. I have no idea what's happening with the flight money - if it's a refund or e-credit, or how long an e-credit would be valid. I only know the reservation no longer exists.
We get it. People are scared. Some have every reason to be. Some are panicked for no reason. Some just have to cancel because of their state lockdowns and the threat of quarantine. Everyone has to do what's best for them, including us ... And YOU.
It sucks to think about leaving our people out, but it's really about the two of us anyway, not them. It's our life. Our forever. YOUR forever.

Given what you've said, option 2 sounds best for your situation and ours. Sounds like a nice happy-medium to me. But give me 2 minutes and I'll probably change my mind again.

That is frustrating. if u feel comfortable going through with it why not have your small ceremony. as long as u social distance there should be no concern