My wedding is April 11th and I have been planning it for 1.5 years. The hotel canceled and my guest list went from 50 to 30 or less. I moved to plan B at my parents house because they offered. Now I have my brother (who was going to officiate) is trying to guilt me about having it. My fiancé doesn’t want to reschedule and our marriage license which we got early is only good until the end of May. *As a side not our dream honeymoon is set for July in non other than Italy. Which is already booked and paid for.
Can you find someone else willing to officiate? I’m honestly with your brother on this, but if you aren’t willing to postpone, I’d find someone else to do the ceremony so that he doesn’t have to attend.
Has your state restricted gatherings? I know in my state it would be illegal to have a gathering of people who don’t live together. I’m so sorry this is happening and it sucks so badly for everyone but I would seriously consider postponing or just having a wedding with the two of you and one witness if weddings are allowed in your state right now.
We had to cancel too. We ended up having my dad officiate and my mom be a witness. All in total, 4 people. If you can find someone else to officiate then I would go that route. I would keep your guest list extremely small though.
You don’t have to cancel. But just do it where you can live stream it or just do it 10 people to just get married. I know your frustration because you still want your day but you do also still need to follow social distancing protocol
It depends which state you are in to determine how many ppl is considered for a gathering...and at this point its kinda risky to be around anyone. Meyself ill perfer to cancel than being around a crowd.
A lot of airlines and hotels are being very lenient with their refund policies due to what is happening with COVID-19. I was able to cancel my month-long honeymoon (which was prepaid) and get pretty much everything refunded back to our credit card. Out of 10 hotels and 6 flights (we were doing multiple countries in Asia + Hawaii), we got all our money back. That was when it wasn’t even a worldwide pandemic. We had even switched our trip to Australia/Fiji/New Zealand in order to avoid Asia, and when things got worse, canceled those flights (again pre-paid... obviously, we didn’t learn. Lol) and were able to get most refunded except for one airline who gave us credit vouchers to use within 18 months. So I’m sure you’ll be able to rebook most of your hotels/flights without losing any money.
I’m sorry you’re having to go through all this stress and disappointment, I can only imagine how hard this has been for you and your fiancé. However, I’m with the rest of the PPs on here— any even with over 10 people will be too risky. :/These are 30-50 of YOUR loved ones. Do you really want to risk putting them in a situation where they can possibly get ill?
I'm so sorry but your brother really is right. It is not safe right now to be gathering with anyone outside of the people who you already live with. Have you considered a live-stream wedding? Many couples have been doing these via Zoom as a creative option, and then postponing the celebration for later. Most airlines are being really flexible right now with refunds and vouchers so hopefully you'll be able to either get a refund or postpone your honeymoon. The way things are looking now, I'd say there is a 99% chance no US travel to Italy will be allowed by July. I'm really sorry that you have to go through this, but our only chance to flatten the curve is to follow the CDC guidelines
I feel your pain!. My wedding is scheduled for June 5 and my honeymoon in Hawaii on June 10th. We are waiting for Hawaiian airlines to allow us to reschedule our flight but as of now they ste only allowing up to April 14th. Our Air Bnb house on the beach will allow us to reschedule until May 27. I haven't sent out my invites yet and they should have been going out this week. If we do decide to have and this quarantine is uplifted I am sure our lack of time to send out invites will make this wedding smaller than anticipated. It's so stressful
I know a lot of people are saying to postpone which I am agreeing with. I had to postpone my big wedding that was suppose to happen on 3/21. For as much as it sucks we know it was the best decision. We still got married on the 21st but in a very small setting and will be having a redo wedding in aug with all our friends and family. And then will be going on our honeymoon then. Once we made the decision to postpone the big stuff so much stress came off our shoulders. Do what you think is best.
As someone with family in the ICU this makes me so angry. Have the ceremony with your FH and an officiant if you must... but inviting 30 people to be together at one time is BEYOND negligent
I agree with everyone else, but honest to god I feel your pain. We were supposed to be getting married this Saturday, but we realized fairly quickly that we could not ask his parents to travel. His dad is a doctor swamped with cases, and his mom is severely compromised. It's just not practical right now to have a large group. I would have your brother come over and exchange your vows in a quiet service. I don't know where you live, but right now the community spread is rampant in most cities. Please consider the guilt you would feel if someone died from attending your wedding. That may seem harsh, but there are articles about people dying because they attended a wedding. Have a small ceremony in your quarantine. I' so sorry you're going through this - know you're not alone. And you will be ok.
I honestly would postpone it. Your brother is right! I just read a post where someone’s fiancé died from coronavirus. I’d be lucky that you have that as an option. People are losing their family over this.