Refuse to cancel and so Frustrated!

Your brother is right, and he shouldn't be guilting you. You should be making better choices.

We knocked our guest list below 10 and everyone stood 6 ft apart. Outdoors.

The health of my guests was way more important to me than the wedding weve been planning for the last year.
So we signed our papers, and postponed everything else.
My honeymoon is cancelled too. 🤷‍♀️
Stuff happens.

I am so sorry, and I am in a similar position so I understand. I have set a deadline for possibly rescheduling as well...
We have decided that (if we must), we will wait another year to get married, because the date we have chosen has a great deal of meaning to us.

If you and your FH are very set on this day, can you see this as an opportunity to plan maybe a very special ceremony for just the two of you? It could be a great opportunity to create a different anniversary, and new unique traditions...

So sorry for you girl ! Don’t let ANYONE! Guilt you or tell you how to feel this is between you and your FH all that matters ! Your day is going to be beautiful and you know anyone who comes has nothing but love for you ! As for the honeymoon same boat girl we’re getting married in June and we’re spose to fly out to Italy the next week but that is shot hopefully you can get credit for your flights we are thinking of a 1 year anniversary trip instead of a big honeymoon and save the money for our dream trip to Italy

How DARE you share the actual implications!!!!!


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Girl I’m so sorry I just saw the news and what the president declared ( social distancing till April 30th )my heart hurts for you prayers that you get your dream day another time and it’s everything you ever wanted 💕 I know if this happens to me in June I will still get married on my day by our preacher with just our parents as witnesses and save my dress and ceremony for further out away from this mess . My heart goes out to you 💕💕💕💕

I'll put it this way... Would you really want the potential guilt on your head if one of your loved ones got this virus after you've gone ahead and had your 30 person wedding? Do you want to create a potential rift with your brother for going ahead with your wedding with or without him, and without listening to his wishes as your officiant and family?


Most likely the answer is no. I understand your frustration, but it'd be better to have a celebration with all of your people later than do this now. Postpone, reschedule.

I completely understand where you’re coming from. We had to postpone our April wedding too. Have you considered getting married on your date (just a small get together with, maybe, you two and your brother) then having a larger celebration with family and friends at a later date?


That’s what we’re hoping to do for our date, but we live in a different state than where we were planning on getting married so I’m not sure that it will be possible for us. That will allow you to still get married, but keep everyone’s safety first too.

It’s honestly the worst, but I would seriously think about postponing. No one wants a wedding where guests don’t feel comfortable. I postponed by May 30 wedding to August, and May even have to postpone to next year.

I also had to postpone my April 18th wedding. We have been engaged 15 months. I did not want to at ALL, but also didn’t want to chance anyone getting sick due to my wedding.

I understand your frustrations, however we are in the middle of a global pandemic and it is not worth putting others at risk with a "show must go on mentality". Postponing the wedding is not the end of the world and it will make for a much greater celebration since everyone will also be celebrating the end of social distancing. If you must get married next month, then do something small with just you both, officiant and witness then still have a group celebration later. Totally not worth the risk and everyone would totally get why you are postponing in the middle of a deadly health crisis.

I totally get the being frustrated with this because of how much time, energy and money you’ve put into your plans. States are becoming stricter and stricter about what they’re allowing group sizes to be.
I’m sure I’d be the stubborn one to not want to postpone either. I’d make it a private ceremony (officiant, you and FH, and the needed witnesses) and then once this mess has calmed down plan a celebration with friends and family. Maybe things will be fine by July. That’s my hope, but if not, hopefully all your plans will be understanding and allow a reschedule.

Why you don't want a 30-person wedding right now:

View Quoted Comment Hey— we will have to postpone our wedding and we have been engaged for more than 3 years, and together for almost 8 years. lol I am not thrilled but it’s for the health of our families!!!! And it will be so much more of a fun celebration once this is all over!

For now, maybe it can be just the two of you, your brother officiating and your parents in attendance on 4/11. Then you can have the celebration with guests at a later time. Although you don’t want to postpone your wedding... you also don’t want to host a wedding that people won’t attend either. April 11th is only in 2 weeks and (as you see) a LOT can change in that time. I didn’t expect to spend the last 2 weeks working from home under “shelter in place” orders. But it happened and the future predictions for April are grim. So, with everything still getting worse, I wouldn’t feel comfortable attending a wedding in 2 weeks.

It would be well worth it to postpone and do it the way you've always imagined. Mine was scheduled for next month and I've had to postpone as well. I know it hurts a lot and it's incredibly frustrating to have to plan so much over again but you will thank yourself for doing it according to your vision and to have everyone you want there to be there. Otherwise, I hope you will be able to find a substitute officiant and that everything is beautiful regardless of this crazy situation.

I would have a small intimate ceremony and reschedule the big day for later. Trust me I understand where you are coming from. We did not want to reschedule, the choice was taken from us. Before our county put in to a effect a stay at home order. My mom and sister were already here with me helping with the pre-wedding festivities. Two weeks prior to the wedding, we had our last meeting with the Pastor and church members. They were all on board and excited. Two days later, on my mothers birthday the pastor called to cancel. We lost out ceremony venue and our officiate. My family changed their flights and went home that night because they were terrified they would get stuck and not be able to get back home. Two days later the place where we rented tuxes completely shut down. Then came the county and statewide staY at home orders. I feel selfish for not canceling it sooner. I did setup a small ceremony 10 people total. My husband and I, my two children, his parents, one friend from church, the photographer, and the officiant. Let me tell you what I was emotional wreck all before. But that little ceremony was perfect. It was foggy and lightly raining. We streamed in live on Facebook for family and friends.

I felt the same exact way when this all started. I was making back up plans and who was going to officiate it. I too spent 1.5 years planning this and have certain family members who are elderly that are living to see this wedding happen. Then my fiance made a good point that if we did go through with it and someone got sick or even worse then we would blame ourselves. I was devastated and I know it puts a wrench in life plans that were suppose to happen after the big day but for the health and safety of everyone we changed our date. We are actually waiting an entire year so we can get married on the same date we wanted just a year later. I hope everything works out for you and you get to go on your dream honeymoon.

Our backup plan is to get get married, just the two of us with our parents on our original date, and then when this pandemic is over have a giant reception/party. We don't want to reschedule our ceremony as our date has meaning to us, and we don't want to compromise on our wedding. If I'm only getting married once, I want everything the way I've panned for it to go. Plus I want everyone to be able to attend and have fun!

This is a very frustrating time for all brides, small businesses, etc. I definitely agree with your brother. And think about this. Do you want the COVID-19 stigma haunting your special day? Your guests should feel comfortable to dance, hug you, your fiancé, & other guests without worrying if they just caught a disease.


Do a Live stream, postpone, or get married with just the officiant and witness. You can have the big celebration later.
My wedding is scheduled for October and I will likely postpone it. I don’t want to ask people to travel and spend money who may have just been laid off for 2 months. I want to celebrate and enjoy the moment without COVID-19 haunting our special day.
Good Luck!! Stay Safe!!!

Please stay strong together during these times ill be praying for yall....God bless🙏