So, a lot of people on here keep mentioning after parties? Are those normal? Where do you have them? Who is invited? Do you pay for all the drinks etc. At the after party, too?
@Tamara, where I am they're normal. The after party is usually just a term for everyone going to the hotel bar after the reception ends. Anyone from the wedding can stop by before going to their rooms/going home. And no, each person that attends is aware they cover their own drinks. Official hosting by the married couple ends when the reception ends.
Ours ends at 1 AM, and everybody and everything needs to be out by 2. We looked at a couple of venues that required an 11 or midnight end time, and we couldn't imagine cutting things off that early.
Ours will be ending at 10PM. After 10 we would have to get a permit from the county for noise stuff, and then an extra fee per hour past our already 5 hour reception block. Not worth it in my opinion. I'd rather go back to the room with my new hubby and enjoy the rest of the night with him.