Real life Bride Wars

::sigh:: this is why people think "brides" are totally nuts...

My cousin's daughter isn't coming to my wedding because she THINKS she's getting proposed to that day. HAHA. Go ahead little girl. IDGAF.

Sounds trollish to me....

HAHAH OTW - that's like "i might be pregnant" except more desperate

No, but I always appreciate comments and ideas from friends who have been through this before. I don't understand bridal competitiveness or the "this MY day" theory at all. As OTW wisely said, IDGAF.

Yes, Joe's cousin's daughter. She has asked for some help and I have gladly given it to her. There will be comparisons to be sure but they are completely different weddings. I'll have my day and she will have hers.

So sorry, no war stories

We're not really having a bride war. My cousin is planning her wedding for 3 weeks after mine, so we've been doing a lot of planning at the same stages. But, our wedding styles are sooo different i think it will even be hard for people to compare. I'm doing an Old Hollywood evening cocktail reception in a historic theatre and she's doing a daytime rustic/country themed wedding on a farm (like a wedding venue farm, not just a random farm).

I could have been angry that I was engaged first and that we set our date a year before she was engaged - but seriously what is the point? My day is going to be spectacular and I sincerely hope hers is, as well.

It has actually been pretty fun having someone in the family to share wedding stuff with and tell about good deals I've found. We've never been that close and we've talked a lot more during the planning of our weddings than ever before. Plus, I'm not at all into the rustic/country thing, so knowing that is is her theme has given me a reason to appreciate stuff outside of my normal style.

I never understood the brides who got pissed off over other brides (their friends or family) doing some similar things for their respective weddings. I don't know of any wedding where an idea wasn't taken from someone or some wedding platform so to think you are the only person in the world entitled to use certain ideas for your wedding is completely absurd but that's just my 2 cents. In as far as same day weddings or close by weddings, I have good friends getting married a week prior to my wedding even though I was engaged way before they were and had my date sent out way before so them planning their wedding a week before mine sort of confused me a little bit BUT, it happens and I am okay with that. It sort of helps with guest options to know who is going to what so you don't waste invitations on people who might prefer the other wedding when you are over your limit on guests by 30 people like I am lol. No harm in splitting the guests.

I am planning my wedding at the same time as one of my bridesmaids, but she's getting married four months before me so it really doesn't matter. Plus, it's nice to be able to bounce ideas off one another and share deals when we find them!

I was lucky enough not to have this problem. My best friend is got engaged around the same time. I picked the date of August 8 hoping that it wouldn't conflict with her wedding. It didn't. She's getting married July 5th. Enough apart that we can both be bridesmaids for each other.

So far no ideas have been stolen. My wedding is very fairy tale with royal colours and indoors, while my best friend's wedding is outdoors, and her colours are pink/peach. They're different from each other so we can't steal each other's ideas.

One of my bridesmaids will be getting married next year though. If she wants to steal any of my ideas I would feel honoured.

I'm planning at the same time as one of our relatives, but I would never call it a bride war lol. It's fun to have someone to talk to about wedding things. Sure, sometimes I feel like their wedding could outshine ours in terms of opulence (they have far more money to work with) but in the end, we'll be just as married as they are, so I'm really not bothered by it.

My sister and FSIL are both getting married before me. Both of them have taken my ideas and are using them in their wedding. So I started making them the stuff and selling it to them seen as they were using my ideas anyway. Now I make money off of it, and can change it so it isn't exactly like mine.

My brother is getting married 5 weeks before and I couldn't be happier about it. Seriously, not one ounce of snark there.

My FSIL is an amazing woman and is perfect for my brother and is already an exceptional step mother to my two nieces. Her and my brother also already have a little boy of their own and she's a great mother.

Our weddings are different but it wouldn't be a competition regardless. Both will be great. We are excited about taking anniversary trips together in the future.

Mt friend is getting married the week before me. It never occurred to me to compete or experience jealousy! If anything, I feel a little sorry for her since she's not marrying my love

LOL Kate! We can add the "I might be engaged" to the list then.

My boss is getting married the day after me... but we are marrying in different countries and so there is no overlap of guests or anything like that. The only thing I'm jealous of, is that he is having make your own centerpieces from lego, and we just have regular, ol' flowers lol.

A good friend of mine got married a month after me in the same city as we did. We had different ceremony venues, different reception venues, different colour schemes and a whole different vibe. The only thing we shared was about 10-12 of the same guests. We each got to enjoy each others weddings for that they each represented our own tastes and were happy for each other.

Yupppp my life story! I really dont feel that whole "competion" thing! Honestly im getting married for love. She has copied me pretty much on everything but heyyy i guess i have good taste lol

A lot of weddings between FH's family and some of our friends. Overall, no issues. I could care less if anyone "steals" my ideas. As long as I'm happy with my wedding, then why would I care if someone else is doing the same thing?

It seems like EVERYONE in this town is getting married this fall. No bride wars or competitiveness (other than my own perfectionism which I hold tightly inside around other people...usually).

Even my own twin sister is now getting married this year. *sigh*

Sometimes I let it take the wind out of my sails but I snap out of it. (or say I do... or try to.. or pretend to.. or something) BUT at the end of the day it is the same result. I'm married to FH. So thats all that really matters.