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Expert August 2018

Rant- Moving Back Home

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Dana, on September 5, 2017 at 9:25 PM

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Since I've been engaged everyone keeps suggesting that I move back to my parents house to save up money for the wedding. I have no desire to and its starting to get under my skin. There is nothing wrong with moving back in with them and they have already said they'd welcome me with open arms I just like living on my own in my apartment. I LOVE my apartment, its my little quiet haven. FH already lives in a house I'd be moving into after the wedding. Deep down inside I know it would help with paying for the wedding bc my rent is high(going up next renewal) but I still don't want to and I feel like I'd be annoyed the whole time. I'm really blessed to have somewhere that I can move back to. My parents are older and very old school and I wouldn't have the freedom I have now. They mean well but yeah lol. Everyone keeps saying its just a few months but still. Anywho, I just felt like venting. My lease ends in Oct. Anyone else moved back home until their wedding? Pros? Cons?

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Master August 2018
Nemo · on September 6, 2017 at 3:10 PM
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@SSJKarigan sorry for the misunderstanding! My bad, I understand what you were saying.

@StPaulGal They did separate it out by ages, I would have to go back and look at the sermons again to look for the other variables. I definitely agree that those could play a part, particularly poverty.

I know that you've said people that aren't allowed to live together are also not allowed to divorce, but I don't personally know of many cases where that is true. But I also don't know many fundamentalist Christians so I can't speak to that group. My friends that are Muslim are not allowed to live together before they are married, but I know several that have divorced siblings. My family is Catholic and a lot of my friends are Catholic and I know many that are divorced, including my parents that were divorced twice and a good number of my cousins.
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Dedicated October 2019
Kat2Gross · on September 6, 2017 at 3:12 PM
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Move in with your fh. You wont regret it. People are different behind closed doors.
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Devoted October 2017
Olga · on September 6, 2017 at 3:34 PM
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Go ahead and move in with your FH that way you two start learning from each other.
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Jaci · on September 6, 2017 at 3:44 PM
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Interesting discussion! FH and I were together for over 8 years by the time we moved in together (FH didn't want to get engaged until we lived together) and even though I knew him and his good and bad habits really well and pretty much knew exactly how it would be, it still made a huge difference in our relationship. Honestly, we are closer than ever before and more in sync, I think it has helped our relationship grow and become stronger and deeper. I sincerely recommend it sooner rather than later. It's a good way to know that it's the right fit.
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SuYa · on September 6, 2017 at 3:49 PM
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We were in the process of planning a wedding and buying a house, so we moved in with my in-laws. It takes some adjusting, but we did save a lot in the long run that we were able to use towards the wedding and our new house. The only difference here is that DH lived with me already.
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