Rant- Moving Back Home

Why not just move in with FH?

No, but I was 40 when I got married and had owned a home for 15 years. That being said, you might be surprised at how much freedom they give you. What about moving into the house with FH?

@futuremrsr I could but I'm a little prude lol. I kind of want the get married then move in bliss. If I move home I'd just move my stuff in his house but I wouldn't want to live there until after the wedding.

@susan yeah they may not be as bad now that I'm older. I was 23/24 when I was living at home after college. I'll be 27

I would really consider moving in with FH. It would save you money and honestly moving in with FH was such a transition and I'm glad we don't have to deal with it after the wedding.

Unless you're struggling financially, what's the point? They can stfu and butt out of your business.

LOL @lillybean17 I don't get it. I have a good job in sales and I feel like if I need to make more I can with my commissions and if we're spliting stuff costs for vendors I don't see the point but people make it look like I'm crazy not to move home to "save" so now I'm sitting here questioning myself

@K.M. I'm lowkey scared of that transition in addition to planning a wedding. I've heard such horror stories

The bliss will end and then you'll have to work through the little habits that each other has. Honestly I say just move and enjoy the bliss of planning. If it bugs you that much sleep in different rooms but you would save money and be able to get into a morning routine with work? Just a thought

Every choice has a consequence. You aren't independently wealthy, so thatq limits your choices.

You can move home. You don't want to move home -- and it isn't for a few months. It's for a year. Wait, you'd feel like you'd be annoyed all the time living with FH for less than a year before your marriage? Why? You do realize that's going to be home, right? Maybe you should ponder that for a while.

Freedom? You're engaged and worried about your lack of freedom if you move back home? Then home is in the rear view mirror.

Move in with FH. If you don't want to do that, then we can't come up with anything. Your options are renew and pay for a lease that will extend your tenancy by a few months, move home and be treated like a teenager but enjoy your wedded bliss in August, or move in with FH when your lease is up. It's really that simple.

I do not blame you. Their house their rules...I hate living with mine which I have to at the moment. Never thought I would be almost 30 living with my parents

@rachel d yes it is that simple but I just wanted to see if anyone else decided to move back home and what their experiences were.

I never said I'd be annoyed with the FH but I'd be annoyed moving home. about the "freedom" Like if I wanted to get up at 2 am and go to taco bell now I can, no questions just get up and go- if I got up to go at my parents house its different bc its not just my space anymore and I'd have to be considerate

I could also do a month to month lease at my apt until I figure out my little life so that is comforting to know

@sara thanks do you two live together now?

@FutureSwafford exactly! & I'm sorry! Atleast it will be over for you in a year. Do you feel like by staying there its truly helping you save for the wedding?

I'm probably in the UO but I think it's crucial to test run living together. No offense to anyone.

FH and I are living separately until after the wedding because of our religious beliefs. Yes, we could save a chunk of cash every month if we weren't paying for 2 separate apartments but we are still putting away money monthly and just being smart with our finances.

I feel the same as you about moving back home with my parents. It was an option for me too when FH and I got engaged but I love my freedom and having my own space. I've lived alone for the past 2 years so that's what I'm used to.

Bliss. That's adorable. Living with another person, no matter how much you love them, is rarely "bliss", and it might be good to get used to "great company, having a person I love around all the tiem even if they (pick one) leave laundry everywhere/eat all the ice cream/throw their dirty dishes in the sink/snore like the gates of hell...

Don't move in with your parents. Either stay where you are or move in with your fiance.

These are really interesting perspectives. we've been together for awhile now (6 years this year) and I just couldn't imagine him being a different person after marriage once I move in. When I'm over there he gets on my nerves now about cleaning up so I don't think that would be a shocker. So I don't know what else he could do that would push me over the edge. Then again, you never really know what people do behind closed doors which is the part that makes me nervous.

I completely understand. I'm currently living with my parents and tbh, I miss living independently or with FH! I would tell the people who are suggesting this to you "thank you for the advice, i will take it for consideration"

Definitely agree with not moving in with the parentals lol. Once you move out from home, it's dam near impossible to comfortably live with your parents ago.

I'm absolutely team live in with FH. FH and I have lived together 6 years and his ass still annoys me with certain habits. However we've made it through those early woes of living together. So if you choose to wait, just be prepared for the adjustment.

I'm sure whatever you choose will work out in the end. Good luck OP!