Ran out of money? Tips for vendors

I think you can wait until the next payday and send tips with thank you cards. We didn't tip anyone the day of the wedding. I wanted to tip based on service, not just tip regardless. For example, our photographer & DJ & hair and makeup were PHENOMENAL. Our DOC and florist were just okay. We tipped the first 3 more because they really went above & beyond.

I think it's totally fine. I asked our DOC & photographer about it before and they both said it was common.

We didn't tip the day of because my husband forgot to take the money out. Truthfully I still haven't sent the tips because I got backtracked and needed to buy thank you cards and for my husband to still write the checks. It was agreed that he would pay the tips because I paid off the vendors in the end with just my funds. The thank you cards come tomorrow so I plan to have them in the mail Thursday! It's almost a month after my wedding. Don't be like me, but yes you can wait til after the wedding.

We ended up having to tip our caterer after the fact because I totally forgot to grab cash before the big day. We sent a thank you card with a check a few days after the wedding. I think it's fine to send it after, but make sure to get the addresses you need now to avoid the awkward ask later.

I agree with this!

I actually think tipping them after allows you to give a true tip based on their service and not just a random tip. You can send this with a thank you card later on.

I'm going to upset some of you but, here is my unpopular stance on the tipping "everyone".

Call me old fashioned if you will, but I refuse to tip just because someone says "you should or you need to". 1st I will tip only if the service amazing. 2nd I will not tip you if you are providing the base service of what I am already paying you for. It's your job and business to provide the product I paid you to do. 3rd If I have servers or someone the company sends out to preform the service I paid the company for then I will gladly tip those individuals. I am not just handing out money for them showing up and doing the job I hired them to do.

I will tip for performance to any and all the do well and go above and beyond. Oh an before anyone attacks me for this, I was a server for years and I earned all the tips I received and never did I expect a tip just because society made it a social norm to do so.

The planner doesn't expect a tip.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wkzj9zo_wUw&t=419s

Try this. It might help.

I think you can wait until the next paycheck - we thought about including tips with thank you notes mailed to each vendor, but decided to tip vendors through our DoC during the reception. We gave tips to our catering manager, DoC and assistant, photographer and assistant, DJ, hair and makeup duo, officiant, cantor, and organist. We tipped anywhere from 10-20%.

I would tip the servers a bit more since a 10% fee doesn't seem right to me. If they are amazing and you feel they deserve more that's the way to go. As far as the other's who are providing you the service they offer...nope, I wouldn't. It's their business and they market for customers not tips. My photographer said she actually returns a thank you note with whatever tips she gets. She loves her job and the service she provides so she doesn't want the tips.

I am going to put out a tip jar for my DJ but that's it. I will send everyone thank you notes and a small gift of a framed portrait of their services from the wedding. A professional photo that is, not just a phone snapped picture.