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View Quoted Comment Um it does not even fit the model well.

View Quoted Comment Girl! I 👏🏽Don’t 👏🏽Know👏🏽

Ive bought $25 dollar dresses off Amazon that were more flattering. The material shower my butt cellulite...like wow. Awesome. Great design choices.

Honestly she just picked it for the “sexiness” of the cut and the designer (it was the same as her prom dress 🙄🙄🙄)

My coworker got kicked out of her cousin's BP for not being able to afford the makeup her cousin suddenly demanded.

I told her to tell her cousin that was incredibly rude, if you insist on makeup, the bride pays, and some unmentionable words.

You should be super aware of people's budgets and remember that this is something you ASK your dear friends/family to do. It is not required, it is not a job, it is a volunteer position that requires a lot of time and money from people dear to you.

Don't let clothing and makeup come between you and your friends.

View Quoted Comment That's a very pretty dress!

View Quoted Comment This, also to, remember that there are some competitive type A users on this site who don't read any of the comments, especially if the thread is longer than a page, and don't think twice about their response or what other people have said. They just quickly reply even if 30 people have said the same thing just to get WW points so they can "rank up." They treat it like a game. You should see my first thread I created. It was about whether I had to have an open bar. I explained I lost my job, which has been a real blow, I might add, because what I do is highly specialized. Like 3 people out of 60 had empathy and the rest acted like I was plotting to murder my first born. My favorite comment was "You need to postpone your wedding until you can properly host your guests.". Don't let these haters get you down. It's mostly a good group with helpful ideas and even some emotional support. Wedding planning is tough!

I went out of my way to only look at dresses under $100. They're only going to wear it once, I would find it inconsiderate to expect someone to drop more than that on what's basically a costume. Im probably just going to pay for the dresses because I want my friends there, I don't want money to even be a question.

View Quoted Comment Oh man I’m guilty of this too, I don’t care about the points(what do they even do?) I’m just like “Oh oh I know the answer!” Man that sucks about your thread. I can’t even have alcohol at my wedding but I wouldn’t be able to pay for open bar either.

I don’t have a wedding party because our wedding is small BUT if I did I know some great places to get good looking affordable gowns because I’ve been a BM before. However I did pay for my mom’s whole look because I want her to feel beautiful too. Her hair is costing more than mine! I’m paying for everything guests need including lodging for OOT. I understand a lot of brides can’t do that and it’s not expected of them but it’s really important to me anyway.

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Nice dress not worth $550 to be in anyone's wedding. I love my best friend but come on that's bill money.

View Quoted Comment I agree the cheaper dresses always seem to be the ones you wear more! But omg $550, that was for a BM dress!? I would never ever ask someone to pay that 😯

I can’t believe people would kick out someone from their BP because they couldn’t afford makeup or the dress. I think these are things that you need to factor in ahead of time like being kind to everyone’s budget but regardless you pick your wedding party to share this beautiful day with you because you love them. Every time I’ve been a BM if we wanted to use hair and makeup artists we could but if not that was fine too. I don’t think I’ve ever paid more than $150 for a dress. I am using Azazie for my girls because they have styles for every shape and size woman and they are super reasonable. If any of my girls came to me with money concerns I would do what I could to help them.


Now if your BM is blowing you off and could care less like someone previously mentioned then that’s completely different,

My first wedding was an impossibly small affair in my in-laws' backyard in FL (we lived in CT at the time). My original pick for MOH couldn't make it so I asked another close friend who happened to be married to the best man. She picked a dress from her closet and that determined the "wedding colors". For this wedding we have several female friends, some would love to wear a dress, some not so much and we would be ok with whatever. But honestly we chose not to have anyone stand with us other than our adult sons. All our friends have to do is attend our wedding and (hopefully) have a good time. Of course if we had asked someone we would have helped with the outfit if we needed to, we're only asking our boys to bring black pants and dress shoes, we're buying everything else. If I ask someone to stand by me on such an important day, I want them there, not their budget.

I have also been asked to be a bridesmaid because the bride's original pick couldn't afford the dress. I wasn't exactly in a place to pay $350 for one either but we do what we have to do and she did pay for my hair.

Let her do her own hair and makeup. If you require it you are required to pay for it. I would pay $30 for the dress to keep a good friend in my BP and not lose them as a friend.

Nope. If they couldn't afford it I would pay for it. If I couldn't afford it, I'd pick something else. I'm not having a bridal party though, so I don't have this problem.

I am letting them buy dresses that fit their budget and makes them feel comfortable. I only ask that it is in the color I want and is floor length. I chose the people I did because I love them and couldn’t imagine my day without them by my side!💕

Also giving them the option to decide if they want hair and makeup professionally done! Not required at all

Under no circumstances would I remove a bridesmaid for financial reasons. I would help pay for the dress or alterations, and if I couldn't (which is a very real possibility) I would have them help me pick a dress in their budget. Removing a bridesmaid is going to impact your friendship and there's no way that a dress is worth it.

Honestly, I think it’s so rude to kick people out because they couldn’t afford something. If you know that person well you know their struggles. I’d offer to pay half of what you’re asking them to get or do.

i have a friend who kicked someone out of their wedding and it destroyed their whole relationship, is that worth it ?

I would speak to those people who can't pay- privately one-on-one and offer to pay.

I would never kick a member of our bridal party out of our wedding due to finances! I agree with you, we asked them to be in our wedding because we wanted them to be a part of our day! I did not force any expenses on them. I wanted this to be a fun experience for anyone!