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I’ve been in weddings with a $30 dress and a wedding where I had to pay $550 for a idiotic dress that I wore once and is just taking up space in my closet.

My wedding was on an incredibly short timeline. I was just happy my girls would stand with me.

View Quoted Comment 550?? My wedding dress was 250!

No I would pay for what they couldn’t pay for.

View Quoted Comment Yuppers. I actually still wear the $30 dress because it’s a fun pretty dress. The $550 dress is this ridiculous silky, bright red evening gown (or honestly it could have been a damn prom dress). It was over the top and it was my cousin’s wedding. She “fired” me as a bridesmaid and “re-hired” me twice before the wedding. We don’t talk anymore 🙄

I bought the outfits for everyone in my wedding party. Only 1 out of 6 offered to pay me back. I said that's not necessary! I just told them if they sold the clothes after the wedding I should get half

I chose my bridal party because they were the 4 women who I wanted by my side when I got married. I made sure to talk to them about dress price point. I also just gave them the direction of gold or rose gold shoes, so they were able to pick what they wanted and at what price point. They wore short dresses, and to be honest, I couldn't tell you what their shoes looked like day of. Clearly not an important detail to me lol. I also offered them professional hair and makeup if they wanted it, but I didn't require it. If any of them were to have come to me and said they couldn't afford the dress or alterations, I would have gladly helped pay for it. Friendship and them being with me means more to me than a piece of clothing.

Also, $550 for a bridesmaid's dress? Yikes!

We had only two attendants for each of my weddings. And in each case, we worked to find outfits that each of the attendants already owned, so they wouldn't have to buy a dress just for our wedding.

I removed someone from my party due to financial reasons. I had a really hard time dealing with it because I really wanted this person to be apart of my special day, but long story short, it just wasn’t a priority to her. After blowing me off a handful of times to meet me and get her dress ordered it finally clicked that she really didn’t care. It was more important for her to have her hair done and her nails done every couple weeks. Which is fine, all the power to her, but it hurt my feelings to say the least. I tried my best to be financially sensitive to my girl. I actually work at the bridal shop we ordered their dresses, shoes and jewelry from, so I was able to get them a discount. So, with the discount their total outfit cost is under $200. Which for me sounds like a good deal, but I know others have different opinions. So yeah, I removed her because I knew she didn’t care and it was only going to get worse as the wedding got closer.

I totally offered to help pay for my bridesmaids stuff if they couldn't afford it.

I am lucky to be in a better financial situation than my bridesmaids. They are two of my closest friends and I really wanted them to celebrate my wedding without worrying about the financial obligations.

I let them choose the bridesmaid dress color from our wedding palette. So long as the color, material, and length matched, I didn't mind if they had different styles. They ended up agreeing on one dress and both purchased them secondhand online to cut costs.

Hair and make-up were services that I needed to hit a minimum for our vendor to come site. My bridesmaids were planning to do their own hair and make-up to limit spending. Since this was required, I covered the cost for both my bridesmaids.

Our wedding was a destination wedding and we were liable for rooms in our block that were not booked. I ended up also covering my bridesmaids' rooms because they had not made arrangements yet and we were going to pay the hotel that amount whether we took it or not.

Like I said, I know I'm lucky to be able to share the cost. I was so happy that they were able to take the time off and travel for our wedding.

Hi Colleen,
I really hope you're not referring to my previous post about bridesmaid dresses. If so I don't think you read any of my following responses and I think I worded the forum title poorly. Saying the girls were "upset" by the bridesmaid dress price was not exactly right. I thought a couple of the girls were a little "salty" about the price but after talking one said she was being sarcastic and one said it was doable. If it wasn't I would have stepped in and helped out. Not being in the wedding would have naver ever came up. I can't believe how cruel some people can be just by a single post. Instead of positive insight and advice I felt completely attacked. Girls came into the comments with their claws out. I was looking just for advice and recommendations.. I ended up getting that and then some. I do appreciate the feedback and advice.

Wishing you a fabulous wedding day!

View Quoted Comment No no it was not you.

No never. I want them there. I would pay for whatever I needed to

View Quoted Comment Omg can we PLEASE see a picture of the stupid expensive dress?

Nope nor would we choose clothing options that we couldn't afford to pay for if they couldn't.
When we asked one person to be in our party after she agreed she asked "I don't have to buy a really expensive bridesmaids dress do I?" At first I was a little offended but she probably had to pay for an expensive dress before....

If we can afford to we will pay for all the WP attire except shoes. I'm trying to make it a priority.

View Quoted Comment There were actually several similar posts so I wouldn’t worry about it being specifically you. I thought you responded with grace and dignity and was happy you came up with a fair solution for your girls.
Please remember that people are just stressed from their own weddings, though I agree your thread got out of hand and you didn’t deserve that. People didn’t read your updates and were going by very little information, your thread was a prime example to read the whole thread before commenting. So I’m sorry that happened to you and hope you stick around. ❤️

View Quoted Comment It was not about her or you if you are the poster.

View Quoted Comment Lol I just found my old post from when she “fired” me the first time. My short-waisted pear-shaped body looked like a poorly folded dumpling that was steamed for far too long so I really don’t want to post pix of me in it.

View Quoted Comment Nah couldn’t be me, I don’t even have BM’s, I just wanted to make her feel better because her thread got pretty ugly.

View Quoted Comment That's $550? Is it made out of caviar?